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Old 03-06-2016, 02:24 PM
 
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Everything in my life is going very well, except for one thing: I have no love life.

I'm 23 years old, I've only had two girlfriends and my longest relationship lasted a few months in 2013. I've tried online dating and I've spoken to women, but I haven't met up with any. I am fearful of ending up alone someday. I have been rejected by women I met in person 3 times in the last 18 months.

The majority of women I message online do not respond. How do I meet women for a serious relationship without going to the bar scene?

Also, am I just not meant to find anyone?

Thanks
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Old 03-06-2016, 02:29 PM
 
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Ask your female friends to set you up!
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Old 03-06-2016, 02:40 PM
 
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I am fearful of ending up alone someday.
Aren't you a bit young to be worried about that? I'm 10 years older than you, have a similar situation and just now starting to worry.
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Old 03-06-2016, 02:46 PM
 
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Aren't you a bit young to be worried about that? I'm 10 years older than you, have a similar situation and just now starting to worry.
I am inexperienced in dating, and it concerns me. Also, I am a virgin at 23, I feel like a loser in that respect.
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Old 03-06-2016, 03:00 PM
 
Location: Saint Paul, MN
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Would you date you?

By that I mean would you be interested in dating your preferred gender of partner who has the exact same attributes you do? Someone with your level of career success, objective attractiveness, attitude in life, ambition, passion for hobbies, etc? If the answer is yes, then you are in good shape. If not, work on making yourself into someone you would find compelling enough to be with.
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Old 03-06-2016, 03:01 PM
 
Location: PA
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You could try volunteering, taking a class in something that you enjoy, or joining a Meetup group for local singles. Just go into it for the experience and not just to find a serious relationship. If you come on too strong you could scare women off.
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Old 03-06-2016, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Toronto
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Ask your female friends to set you up!
This. Also, you're only 23. I didn't meet the love of my life until we were 29. Be patient and keep focussing on the other good things in your life.
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Old 03-06-2016, 03:27 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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I am inexperienced in dating, and it concerns me. Also, I am a virgin at 23, I feel like a loser in that respect.
I'm in the same boat, except I'm 25.

Honestly, try not to worry about it too much.
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Old 03-06-2016, 03:53 PM
 
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The circumstances you describe are not normal. See a psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor.
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Old 03-06-2016, 04:10 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Everything in my life is going very well, except for one thing: I have no love life.

I'm 23 years old, I've only had two girlfriends and my longest relationship lasted a few months in 2013. I've tried online dating and I've spoken to women, but I haven't met up with any. I am fearful of ending up alone someday. I have been rejected by women I met in person 3 times in the last 18 months.

The majority of women I message online do not respond. How do I meet women for a serious relationship without going to the bar scene?

Also, am I just not meant to find anyone?

Thanks
This seems unnecessarily dramatic.

Basically one woman every six months declined to go on a date with you? Do you know that there are men who approach 3 women in a week, not 3 in a year and a half? What is holding you back?

What does "I've spoken to women" mean? Where? How did you speak to them? What do you do in your daily life to put you in situations to meet people?
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