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So update.
I checked my phone this morning and I got a snapchat from him last night around bedtime. When I opened it, it was him and he said goodnight stranger lol. I replied back this morning and said you're the one who completely ghosted on me. He opened it but hasn't replied yet. . Wtf??
Ignore my texts, ignore me, snapchat me... Calling it out like I'm the one ignoring you... And then don't reply to me.
Makes sense.
Good grief, woman. Men always go ghost and then come back with that "hey stranger" bs when they want to get some. You should have never replied. SMH. He and his homies are probably laughing at you right now. LOL
I'm just stuck on him for some reason.
I don't think I was in love with him or anything but this time a week ago I was getting ready to go see him, and we had a great time.
I honestly miss his company and I don't understand why he would drop me when nothing was wrong. Imean did he just lie about everything he was feeling? And if he did then why would he do that, like what's the point? Why not save all that crap for someone he really cares about instead of wasting all that time and energy on me... It just seems like a heck of a situation for him to get himself into over somebody he doesn't care about.
And then when I'm trying to cope with his absence he snapchats me (not drunk) and calls me out like he's mad we haven't been talking... Then when I reply, just ignores me??
It makes my head spin because none of it adds up!
He didnt drop you because nothing was wrong, he dropped you because nothing was right. You filled in the gap. You really sound like an 18 year old.
I'm just stuck on him for some reason.
I don't think I was in love with him or anything but this time a week ago I was getting ready to go see him, and we had a great time.
I honestly miss his company and I don't understand why he would drop me when nothing was wrong. Imean did he just lie about everything he was feeling? And if he did then why would he do that, like what's the point? Why not save all that crap for someone he really cares about instead of wasting all that time and energy on me... It just seems like a heck of a situation for him to get himself into over somebody he doesn't care about.
And then when I'm trying to cope with his absence he snapchats me (not drunk) and calls me out like he's mad we haven't been talking... Then when I reply, just ignores me??
It makes my head spin because none of it adds up!
You are responsible for all the bad treatment you get from him.
Just thought I would give an update.
. I was talking to my friend the other day about the situation and about him and shes a military wife... She told me to reach out to him cause something might have happened. So the night before last I sent him a snapchat message so I could make sure he got it... And he responded right away. All I did was ask to hang out so I could talk to him... And he said he wants to so we set a date for Sunday... And then he told me he was sorry for everything lately, he's been busy and hasn't been talking to anyone. I didn't really buy it but i said it was fine so I could see him. Last night when I got off work he asked if we could hang tonight and sunday. So I went to base and saw him.
Right when he got in the car I was like what's been going on I'm concerned.. He said he's been in the hospital and this is his first day feeling normal again. I still don't really buy it because of how he was posting on fb but whatever. He told me he got alchohol poisoning really bad and they had to put charcoal in his stomach. I asked him why he didn't tell me because I was concerned. This might be a military thing cause he said all he was worried about was breathing, and that he wasn't worried about telling me, he didn't wanna die. So I asked if he got my texts he said he didn't. Then I told him there was no way he didn't, I asked if it was because of another girl and that he could honestly tell me and I wouldn't get mad. He said' no I swear... I like you.'
I don't really know how all this miscommunication happened because he said that the Sunday he was supposed to come to church with me I never told him where to go for church or where to meet my parents... Which is true. I didn't message him that morning when I didn't hear back. He said he wanted to meet my family & I can message him first. I don't know if there's something else going on or if that's the truth... But I know in the military it's easy to pull away and he has psych issues from deployment so I don't know if that has something to do with it. Im almost positive he's getting kicked out of the army but he's never said it... He tells me he's getting out.
So anyways stuff happened tonight. I know it was dumb of me to do things but that's another story in itself. He just believes differently about it than I do. He said he's not gonna hurt me. I never asked him to say that and when I did I got caught off guard and had to ask him what he meant. I'm not stupid enough to believe the things he said, but he still said them.
I guess he assumed we had been talking this whole time because I told him I'm going out of town this weekend and he was legit concerned I was gonna have sex or kiss somebody. And he kept calling me baby and babe the whole night. At the same time I felt like something else is going on with him because he got irritated easy. I know he's not an emotionally stable guy.. And I told him he can tell me anything, even if he wanted a a no strings attached fling. I offered him the option just to get the truth out of him, but he refused to let it be anything casual.
I don't know why he says he doesn't want that if he just dissappeared for a week. I think he sees sex as bonding because I told him I want to have real conversations with him about his life and he said we will, that's what we're doing. He wanted me to stay the night. Like he doesn't want me to leave after we mess around but I do because it's what I'm used to and I don't live alone yet. . But I don't know what would have happened had I not reached out to him. The whole thing is confusing but I'm afraid to text him about how I'm feeling because I was already onto him about dissapearing. I guess I should trust his story until I have a reason not to. Military are different because they don't need to tell everybody what's happening. I guess they get so used to not being able to communicate that telling someone you're in the hospital might not be a big deal. It's just confusing. I like him and he's so bad for me. I'm torn because I just want to be in his presence, if I start falling for him it's not gonna be good and there's so much potential to be hurt but I can't help how I feel.
I probably care a lot more than he does. I'm not being stupid about it. It was probably a lie that he never got my texts. I only reached out to him twice.
If he's going through something, he isn't telling me. And since he offered to hang out all this weekend before he found out I was going out of town, I semi believe that there isn't another girl. I offered something casual only to get the truth, so he would know that I wouldn't care what the truth was and he could tell me.
I sense something, and I want to be there for him. But he is not like me. He doesn't display emotions, doesn't want to talk a lot about things but then again I haven't had much time to get to know him.
And since he can't drive due to his DUI there aren't a lot of options for spending time together unless I go to the base.
But then again, I haven't heard from him yet today so he might be pulling the same stunt again. I guess we don't have to communicate everyday. We left off just fine and we have plans to talk Sunday.
I know im being dumb for choosing something that's only going to hurt me. But I care so much and I don't know why.
I wish I could make sense of it.
You are being stupid about it. What is wrong with you that you super attached to unavailable guys and refuse to move on when you get clear cut signs that its time to go your way? You're trying to create a world of hurt and potentially abuse. What doesn't help is that you have friends that essentially are encouraging you to mire in this filth, instead of encouraging you to find a better guy.
Whew? Thank goodness is he is just an alcoholic who almost killed himself?
Here, I'll feed the fire: There are some places I go on base where I get no connectivity and texts can sometimes go astray. Though most come through once I get off base.
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