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I would say I am intense. I am either distant and detached from people or no-holds-barred. People who know me well often forget I am shy. I think a lot of shy people are quite intense. I think the intensity may cause shyness, because if you were uninhibited all the time, then it would be exhausting. There's a misconception that shy people are boring, but they're really some of the more interesting people. You are more concerned with complex matters, and things like small-talk bore you to death. You have to hold back because you can be almost too direct and say exactly what you feel.
So do I think being intense can cause social problems? Yes I do. Not drama however, because intense people are either detached and have no interest in causing drama, or they are attached enough to be very forgiving and fiercely loyal. Maybe that's just me though...I have little to no drama in my life, and it's never about me.
Some traits I associate with intensity:
high-strung
introverted
creative
passionate
deep thinkers
strong morals / integrity
fiercely loyal & protective of those they love
quiet and shy
direct and blunt
determined
sensitive
temperamental / moody
There seems to be quite a few self-described intense personalities who are detached and drama-free, and others who are passionate. Are there 2 sets going on here? The intense high-energy artistic romantic type and the deep dark (goth?) type?
Prime examples: drill sergeants, law enforcement, teachers, media personalities. I become very flustered and intimidated by stronger, assertive personalities. I can't imagine hooking up with a companion like this.
What traits would you personally use to describe an intense personality?
Would you describe yourself as being an intense person? Has anyone else described you as being intense?
Do you feel that people who are intense have a harder time being in relationships or socializing than others? Why or why not?
Would you want your partner to be more or less intense as a personality overall?
Surprisingly, it's not easy to come across various opinions and info on this subject. I'll see a few things here and there on the internet about this topic through Google, but there's no definitive link or website that talks about this to a good degree.
Yes, I am intense--but not obviously intense. I often appear to be calm, friendly, and unruffled on the outside; but beneath the surface I am full of intense emotions or feelings that I have learned to control. I am a natural leader, a feeler. What I need from a partner is someone who is steady, calm, clear, and compassionate. Someone who gets me and has a high emotional i.q.. The kind of guy who is so attuned or intuitive that he can gently but firmly take my hand on a crowded, boisterous A train and remind me just by his eyes, his presence, and the touch of his hand that we will soon be home. The kind of guy who can enjoy my performance at a poetry reading or open mic, while knowing that after the show I just need a quiet place to chill out with him or with a close-knit group of friends at a cozy diner or restaurant. I do well with guys who are grounded and secure, who admire strong women, who enjoy my intensity, and who soothe me from time to time without stifling me.
What traits would you personally use to describe an intense personality?
Would you describe yourself as being an intense person? Has anyone else described you as being intense?
Do you feel that people who are intense have a harder time being in relationships or socializing than others? Why or why not?
Would you want your partner to be more or less intense as a personality overall?
Surprisingly, it's not easy to come across various opinions and info on this subject. I'll see a few things here and there on the internet about this topic through Google, but there's no definitive link or website that talks about this to a good degree.
I guess I would consider myself an intense person. I'm pretty easy to get angered, and I have strong convictions in what I think is right and wrong. I'm open to new ideas, though, and I've come to terms with my intense feelings - anger, love, lust, aggression, and intellectual intensity.
In terms of socializing and being in relationships, I found it was a little difficult until I mellowed out a bit and matured a bit. I am still easy to get angry, but my wife helps me out and puts me in my place once in a while. She is the same way too =P ...
Intense personalities are very focused. Sometimes this can be a good thing. It's like anything else. I forget who said this, but a fault is almost always a virtue taken to excess. My problem is that many intense people tend to be perfectionists, and they don't have a lot of patience with people who aren't the same way they are.
SandyCo, I think that you are correct here. And, it's not only that they do not have a lot of patience with people who are not like themselves, but sometimes they even loose patience with themselves. That's all a part of the intensity.
I would say I am intense. I am either distant and detached from people or no-holds-barred. People who know me well often forget I am shy. I think a lot of shy people are quite intense. I think the intensity may cause shyness, because if you were uninhibited all the time, then it would be exhausting. There's a misconception that shy people are boring, but they're really some of the more interesting people. You are more concerned with complex matters, and things like small-talk bore you to death. You have to hold back because you can be almost too direct and say exactly what you feel.
So do I think being intense can cause social problems? Yes I do. Not drama however, because intense people are either detached and have no interest in causing drama, or they are attached enough to be very forgiving and fiercely loyal. Maybe that's just me though...I have little to no drama in my life, and it's never about me.
Some traits I associate with intensity:
high-strung
introverted
creative
passionate
deep thinkers
strong morals / integrity
fiercely loyal & protective of those they love
quiet and shy
direct and blunt
determined
sensitive
temperamental / moody
What traits would you personally use to describe an intense personality?
Would you describe yourself as being an intense person? Has anyone else described you as being intense?
Do you feel that people who are intense have a harder time being in relationships or socializing than others? Why or why not?
Would you want your partner to be more or less intense as a personality overall?
Surprisingly, it's not easy to come across various opinions and info on this subject. I'll see a few things here and there on the internet about this topic through Google, but there's no definitive link or website that talks about this to a good degree.
I have memorably been described as "intense".
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