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So say you are running late for a coffee date, I'm SUPER thirsty and have a free water cup which I take a sip or two. That is grounds for me to me rejected just because YOU ran late and I needed to hydrate? Now I've heard everything.
No, now WE'VE heard everything...frankly, you're reaching, Dissenter, and reaching hard.
How frequently does this scenario happen? LOL. You apparently left for your date dehydrated (somehow)...are on the edge of expiring and your date "rejects" you as soon as she sees a free water cup in the vicinity.
Come on now.
Reaching for objections.
And yes, as noted above, the scenario was the person deliberately arriving early (in order to not have to fumble for a wallet twice, LOL...or preemptively in case he won't get a handie in exchange or what-have-you), not someone running late and panting desperately toward Starbuck's in search of a free paper cup and some water.
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Who said anything about running late? The scenario was of a person who got there early and decided to not wait for their date to arrive before starting.
Even then, I think it is ridiculous to get upset of your date decided to pass the time to wait for your arrival by having a little water and checking the email quick. Screams looking for reasons to get offended.
Even then, I think it is ridiculous to get upset of your date decided to pass the time to wait for your arrival by having a little water and checking the email quick. Screams looking for reasons to get offended.
Even then, I think it is ridiculous to get upset of your date decided to pass the time to wait for your arrival by having a little water and checking the email quick. Screams looking for reasons to get offended.
The person in the scenario didn't pass the time by having a little water and checking the email quick.
He arrived deliberately early specifically so he wouldn't "have to" pay and ordered a coffee. He ordered without his date being there (for just himself, obviously).
And it was by design so as not to somehow get cheated out of $3.00.
And yep in-deedly-do, that's rude. In any world. Ever. Rude...something a middle schooler would do.
So say you are running late for a coffee date, I'm SUPER thirsty and have a free water cup which I take a sip or two. That is grounds for me to me rejected just because YOU ran late and I needed to hydrate? Now I've heard everything.
That scenario you just described? Your words not mine. Yeah you've heard it all because you keep coming up with the most outlandish assertons, Dis.
You are reaching as hard as you can to disagree. And that's fine. Enjoy your perpetual state of disagreement.
Ok Dissenter (with a little chuckle re your username here)- the way that I'm personally seeing it might be easier to understand in a slightly different hypothetical:
We agree to meet at a restaurant. He gets there early and is at the bar having a drink when I arrive on time. No issues whatsoever. Where it would become an issue for me is if he was already seated and half-way through his appetizer when I arrived. What does this say to me? At best, that he's lukewarm about my company. "Well, I'd she gets here, she gets here. At least I'll have a good meal". Definitely not a good way to start off with me.
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Ok Dissenter (with a little chuckle re your username here)- the way that I'm personally seeing it might be easier to understand in a slightly different hypothetical:
We agree to meet at a restaurant. He gets there early and is at the bar having a drink when I arrive on time. No issues whatsoever. Where it would become an issue for me is if he was already seated and half-way through his appetizer when I arrived. What does this say to me? At best, that he's lukewarm about my company. "Well, I'd she gets here, she gets here. At least I'll have a good meal". Definitely not a good way to start off with me.
The way you and others responded you would have be ready to raise holy hell if I had a drink of water at my table because I was thirsty and waiting for you. That's all I was responding to.
BTW I don't know why my username is cause for laughter. I call myself Dissenter because I'm a nonconformist and that puts me at odds with society, for my dissent.
She should put out before expecting me to shell out!
What if she has no expectation about you shelling out, and decides she's ok with hanging out and getting to know you better? She may decide you're a fun date, and genuinely enjoy your company without being interested in sex yet. Then what?
The way you and others responded you would have be ready to raise holy hell if I had a drink of water at my table because I was thirsty and waiting for you. That's all I was responding to.
That's not what we were talking about at all. If you're meeting a date for coffee, and when she shows up (on time, even) you're already working on your coffee, have eaten half a bagel and are doing the crossword puzzle or whatever, it doesn't look like you were eagerly waiting for a date. She may rightly feel like she'd be interrupting you, rather than sharing time with you. Just in general, it's rude to order before your companion arrives.
The way you and others responded you would have be ready to raise holy hell if I had a drink of water at my table because I was thirsty and waiting for you. That's all I was responding to.
I think you're reading into things that really aren't there.
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