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I have a wedding coming up, and I am wondering what I should do. A woman, who I happen to like, is attending and her brother is accompanying her. I would like to slow dance with her at the wedding at some point.
If she is sitting with her brother, and I go up to her to ask her to dance, should I say (to her brother), "Do you mind if I dance with your sister?" Or should I ask her first and then say to her brother, "Do you mind?"
Should I just ask her? I am just trying to be polite/use proper etiquette in this situation
Now, she is older than her brother, and she is also older than me by about 4 years. She is single and I do like her so I am just wondering what I should do in this situation.
I say it's proper to greet both of them, and say hi. But the question of dancing should go to her.
It's none of her brother's business, thus he shouldn't have any say over who his sister can, and can't dance with, especially if she's older than he. If she wants to dance. then it's all good.
You just ask to dance with her. It's none of her brother's business, thus he shouldn't have any say over who his sister can, and can't dance with, especially if she's older than he.
So you ask her if she wants to dance. if she says yes, it's all good.
Thanks, not the best with these types of situations, so I just wanted someone else's opinion.
It's an interesting, old-fashioned question. But unless the girl in question is underage and accompanied by a chaperone, I would not ask anyone else's permission to dance with her, as she is no one's property.
Walk up, greet her, introduce yourself to her brother (or say hello to him if you know one another), ask her to dance. Afterward, when you walk her back to her seat, tell her brother it was nice to meet him/see him again.
I think you could do it either way. You'd probably score a point or two by addressing the brother in a semi formal way and asking if he minded if you danced with his date. Then you should, of course, ask her. It's a bit old fashioned, but why not?
Maybe a brash young feminist might take offense, but I doubt she'd be on a date with her younger brother.
What year is this and what country are you in? There can be a bit of rivalry between siblings and to presume that a possibly younger or even older brother has ANY say at all over his sister is dumb. I don't care if it is at a "formal" wedding.
I have a wedding coming up, and I am wondering what I should do. A woman, who I happen to like, is attending and her brother is accompanying her. I would like to slow dance with her at the wedding at some point.
If she is sitting with her brother, and I go up to her to ask her to dance, should I say (to her brother), "Do you mind if I dance with your sister?" Or should I ask her first and then say to her brother, "Do you mind?"
Should I just ask her? I am just trying to be polite/use proper etiquette in this situation
Now, she is older than her brother, and she is also older than me by about 4 years. She is single and I do like her so I am just wondering what I should do in this situation.
Thanks for your input.
No.
That's good manners, which is a total turn-off to women these days.
Just ask her to dance, while acknowledging her brother.
I have a wedding coming up, and I am wondering what I should do. A woman, who I happen to like, is attending and her brother is accompanying her. I would like to slow dance with her at the wedding at some point.
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Thanks for your input.
You should ask your new wife. She might not like it so soon after the ceremony.
No need to ask for permission, Ive been told since grade school that women can make their own choices. She should be able to say no or yes to a dance. Ask her.
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