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I call him on the phone and he doesn't want to talk.
I video call him and he doesn't want to talk.
He tells me he will come over and see me and yet he doesn't come over.
He says he wants us to do intimate stuff together but yet doesn't come over.
HE is the one doing this, I am wanting to do all of this, he is not. He does not want a fight to start up. Even though I am changing my ways just for him. I am willing to do whatever it takes just for him.
I am NOT playing games with him. I am pouring my heart and soul onto him. He wants to be with me and he wants us together. He just has a lot going on in his life right now.
What is the right way to take a break, when your in a relationship and you and your partner agree to taking a break from each other. As of currently, my Boyfriend and I are on a break, cutting off all communication between one another, and focusing on our own lives, helping our families, hanging with friends, doing things in our own lives, to keep us busy, while also thinking about our relationship and the future together.
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Originally Posted by mikumiku
Him and I did discuss our break and I told him, no dating other people, and to just focus on our own lives. I have been holding up fine, he is going a bit crazy but is more calm now.
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Originally Posted by mikumiku
1 year, I wanted us to take the break, because every time we talk on the phone, video chat, etc. we get into a fight, so it got so bad, that the stress level on my health was extremely high, and I needed this break to focus on me, and he too said he was dealing with stress and under pressure in his life, so I figured this break would be good for both of us. I am doing much better health-wise since we took this break, him on the other hand, he is having a hard time dealing with this break.
Sounds like he's giving you exactly what you said you wanted. Maybe you really hurt him when you suggested it. He might feel relief from the arguments and stress, just as you did two weeks ago. Be careful what you ask for ... seems like you got it. You wanted a break for a whole year, remember?
If I could tell all the people who come here with relationship problems one thing, it would be this:
LIFE is the "stuff going on." The "stuff going on in your life" is not something that is going to let up eventually so you can get back to your fantasy relationship.
If you cannot hack it as BF/GF with all the "stuff going on," you are doing it wrong and you need to stop. Because there is ALWAYS going to be something going on that you don't want to deal with, don't want to talk about, makes you grumpy, etc.
A relationship is not just a series of fun dates out on the town. It's a support system between two mature people who care about each other and know how to show it. I see NONE of that here.
If I could tell all the people who come here with relationship problems one thing, it would be this:
LIFE is the "stuff going on." The "stuff going on in your life" is not something that is going to let up eventually so you can get back to your fantasy relationship.
If you cannot hack it as BF/GF with all the "stuff going on," you are doing it wrong and you need to stop. Because there is ALWAYS going to be something going on that you don't want to deal with, don't want to talk about, makes you grumpy, etc.
A relationship is not just a series of fun dates out on the town. It's a support system between two mature people who care about each other and know how to show it. I see NONE of that here.
Sounds like he's giving you exactly what you said you wanted. Maybe you really hurt him when you suggested it. He might feel relief from the arguments and stress, just as you did two weeks ago. Be careful what you ask for ... seems like you got it. You wanted a break for a whole year, remember?
I NEVER SAID I WANTED A BREAK FOR A YEAR. I SAID 2 WEEKS, AND THOSE 2 WEEKS ARE DONE. Him and I are talking still while focusing on our own lives and will be hanging out this week.
, feeling hurt that my own Boyfriend doesn't want to
talk on the phone
video chat
hang out in person
do anything in person
Be intimate with each other
As of right now he is suffering from a sore throat and cannot talk on the phone or video chat until he gets better.
I'm sorry, you don't have a BF. I don't know what's going on, but how is it he got you to go along with this?
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