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Disability, handicap, sudden change of circumstance, ..... no problem.
Lazy, no ambitions, no motivation, no job, no money, ..... problem.
I was with a guy for 8 years who had no license. I never felt used to drive him around, he mostly used public transportation, bicycle, walked, etc. He also helped paying for gas.
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Disability, handicap, sudden change of circumstance, ..... no problem.
Lazy, no ambitions, no motivation, no job, no money, ..... problem.
I was with a guy for 8 years who had no license. I never felt used to drive him around, he mostly used public transportation, bicycle, walked, etc. He also helped paying for gas.
That's key. Reciprocity is important.
The OP doesn't sound like she is even trying to obtain transportation. That would be an issue for me.
But I live in a city where the public transportation sucks.
Disability, handicap, sudden change of circumstance, ..... no problem.
Lazy, no ambitions, no motivation, no job, no money, ..... problem.
I was with a guy for 8 years who had no license. I never felt used to drive him around, he mostly used public transportation, bicycle, walked, etc. He also helped paying for gas.
Bingo - the OP sounds extremely entitled - she doesn't do ANYTHING to mitigate the driving for him like using public transportation or other means of transport - she expects HIM to provide it for her. That's just WRONG.
Nope. And you didn't differentiate either, so you can't go blaming me. Most people aren't mind readers. And I was just pointing out that some people do feel this way obviously (don't care what the situation is), and that those people are shallow.
But how do you know? There were responses that said flat out they wouldn't date someone if they didn't have a car, or they had to drive a lot. I don't think those people differentiated between the situations, or would. And I stick by the lack of driving as my reason. It's hard to get to social events in the suburbs when you don't do freeway driving.
But anyway, off topic kind of. The latest responses are definitely good points that I agree with.
yep, not about you and your personal situation. Take a chill pill (I vote for a beer though)
I would take transit, but transit would take around 2-3 hours so not going to be the best option.
It isn't about what is "your" best option. It's about what's best for the both of you.
You have to be willing to give a little in any realtionship, even if that give is sacrificing your time to go see him every now and again.
Im sure he would appreciate the effort if he was to see you actually take the initiative from time to time
Then I'm "blaming her" and lots of people are "shallow". Goodness.
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