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And, what I hear when someone says that is that there is something inherently wrong with those like myself, who don't believe that there is some sort of "universal drive" in the human species..
Agreed. Saying something is unnatural so casual can be offensive, as if something is wrong with someone that live the lifestyle. I would wager if someone were to come on the forum and saying being gay is unnatural and people are just influenced to think otherwise, tons of posters would be offended and up in arms about it, then it would lead to personal attacks, and possible religion bashing.
Monogamy is not for everyone. But that doesn't make in unnatural. Some animals mate for life. So it's apparently not something that man just made up recent years. Some people want monogamy in relationships, and some don't. But arguing it's not natural seems off. You can say "I don't believe in it" or "I don't care for it." Because, that's really all it boils down to. Some don't care for it, and find it needlessly difficult and limiting.
Last edited by HappyRain; 03-25-2016 at 09:37 AM..
Cheating happens when something is wrong in the relationship.
Anyone is capable of cheating on their partner, but at the end of the day you make that decision to be faithful or not.
That's why its important to find someone you are compatible with in the first place and who you find really attractive.
If your partner is not meeting your needs, then things like this can clearly lead to problems like that in the first place.
Agreed. Saying something is unnatural so casual can be offensive, as if something is wrong with someone that lives the lifestyle. I would wager if someone were to come on the forum and saying being gay is unnatural and people are just influenced to think otherwise, tons of posters would be offended and up in arms about, then it would lead to personal attacks, and possible religion bashing, since some feel only, and all, Christians hate and dehumanize gay people.
Monogamy is not for everyone. But that doesn't make in unnatural. Some animals mate for life. So it's apparently not something that man just made up recent years. Some people want monogamy. in relationships Some don't.
I agree with this.
Whenever I liked someone, my eyes didn't wander at all even when I tried to get over the current guy I liked. It would stay like that for a LONG time as well. I know being in an actual relationship is different but I am more than certain there are people like that in relationships as well.
Monogamy is not for everyone. But that doesn't make in unnatural. Some animals mate for life. So it's apparently not something that man just made up recent years. Some people want monogamy in relationships, and some don't. But arguing it's not natural seems off. You can say "I don't believe in it" or "I don't care for it." Because, that's really all it boils down to. Some don't care for it, and find it needlessly difficult and limiting.
Non-monogamy and being a hurtful, lying scumbag are unrelated. If a person chooses to promise a committed relationship with someone you claim to love, you don't sneak and lie. If you can't BE monogamous, don't promise to be.
Lifelong monogamy in mammals is pretty rare, so I don't think it's much of stretch to conclude the same about humans, especially considering how common infidelity is. That's not to say that monogamy is "unnatural", but rather it's not the default. It's a conscious choice we make to stay loyal to our partners, in spite of temptation.
I don't agree with the OP. I will say this, though. The vast majority of people who cheat at one point would have claimed they never will. Some people enter committed relationships as a scam, either because they think they should or because they want some of the benefits, but they never seriously intend to stay faithful. I think those people are rare.
Most people who cheat are in the camp that decried that behavior at some point, but couldn't live up to their convictions.
I wonder if the OP just cheated last night and wants to justify it LOL.
If you aren't married, technically it's not cheating though, by definition at least.
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