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Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?
And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?
I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
Young women are definitely the last thing an older man would ever want. Absolutely the very last thing.
Seriously though for your second question it depends on how much he wants that lifestyle. I imagine everyone makes some sort of relationship compromises because they think being with their partner is worth what they are giving up. Get to know each other for a bit before putting that one to the question, but he is the only one who can give you his answer.
Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?
And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?
I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
Everyone clicks differently. I'm just wondering how you come to the conclusion that two legal adults dating can't be normal? Don't people who are "age appropriate" have similar relationship dynamics?
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Do 40 year old women take 20 year old men seriously?
Evidently, some do. Granted, "seriously" can be taken in any manner of ways, but who am I to knock a 40-something for having an age range of 21-50 for a criteria on an OLD profile?
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Young women are definitely the last thing an older man would ever want. Absolutely the very last thing.
I don't know about that. I'm only 36, so not "older" on the grand scale, but "age is but a number" was the idea when I was growing up in the mid-90s and I'll go with that, since it was such a great time to be alive. Most guys will take whatever attention that can get, for better or worse. Or is this one of those thinly veiled bouts of misogyny where barely legal women are bimbos who don't know anything despite being exposed to way more than any of us were as teens? No surprise, I hear that kind of stuff from women exclusively, when it comes to their comments about those kinds of relationships.
It's called sarcasm. I am sort of surprised the topic creator even asked. There aren't many reasons a single fortysomething guy wouldn't want a relationship with a woman in her twenties all things being equal.
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Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?.
Yes, many do, but its going to take patience and work. Most women that age, if they have never been in a serious relationship before, don't really know their place (i.e. how to do much more than look cute and giggle). They have no idea how to serve a man. Aside from a kitten or puppy, they have never nurtured anyone in their life, and don't really understand their role in the male-female dynamic. If they enjoy mouthing off, rather than letting the man handle any problems, they can get the guys butt kicked and/or take themselves and the guy to jail.
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And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?)
Here's a learning point for the young female - most men want to appear the dominant one publicly, even if they really aren't in the home. She can rule the roost if she needs to privately - sort of like when your Mom used to say, "just wait until I get you home." She needs to know to quietly wait until they are both home to rip him a new one, lol. He will be at her mercy.
Theoretically speaking, she will probably not be as experienced as the 42 year old in the bedroom. He will have to teach her what he wants. He will need some skills himself to keep her attention long enough for her to learn something. If he wants her to be submissive literally everywhere, and that is not her general personality, then she isn't happy, and eventually she will leave.
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I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
Seriously? Unless he is Donald Trump, Michael Bloomberg, Richard Branson, or some other guy that can just buy anything he wants, she can tell by him still putting up with her. She can tell by him still trying to be in a relationship with her.
As with someone her own age, she can tell by the things he does to show he genuinely cares about her - doing and saying things that show concern for her well being and safety. Concern for her happiness. Being jealous of any man that looks at her. Stuff like that.
She can be on their level intellectually, and even more mature than they are - but they have one thing on her that she doesn't have yet (in theory) and that's 20 odd years of lifetime experience.
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I can't speak for others, for me, absolutely not. I've been approached by some early 30s women and its tough enough there. In their 20s people are still children, so I can't take it seriously. Not that it happens.
Do men take women seriously in general? I still hear women in their 40s getting called a "girl"...
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have similar relationship dynamics? 
