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Old 03-27-2016, 11:55 PM
 
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Do men take 20s women seriously?
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Old 03-28-2016, 05:53 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Do men take women seriously in general? I still hear women in their 40s getting called a "girl"...
Well I'm 44 and a boy, i.e. a male, that has nothing to do with anyone being taken seriously. People in their 40s, 50s, 60s still use the terms boyfriend and girlfriend, it isn't manfriend and womanfriend, that's just a bit beyond uptight.
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Old 03-28-2016, 06:21 AM
 
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Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?

And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?

I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
I'm sure having kids would be a real issue. He is more than likely done in the baby department.
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Old 03-28-2016, 11:03 AM
 
Location: louisville
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Men love young naive and submissive women it makes them feel powerful and masculine.
Not all. Don't make generalizations
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Old 03-28-2016, 01:00 PM
 
Location: Mableton, GA USA (NW Atlanta suburb, 4 miles OTP)
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Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?

And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?

I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
First of all, I'm 53, and I could see someone of any (legal) age as being potential dating material. Even serious relationship material. It all comes down to compatibility.

Dom/sub stuff quickly becomes not PG13. Not sure if that matters much. I know a number of people in such relationships in various forms, sometimes with large age differences, so I can only assume it's viable. Besides, age differences are itself an incentive for some people.

I tend to not fixate on age so much. Then again, I have to have that mindset because I'm an old man.

Last edited by rcsteiner; 03-28-2016 at 01:01 PM.. Reason: Wanted to add a qualifier to "any age". :D Hehe
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Old 03-28-2016, 05:28 PM
 
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Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?

And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?

I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
More like late 20s. At that point you can sort of tell who's going to mature reasonably well. Now realize I'm am speaking of career women with good educations. Not "submissive" or what have you.
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Old 03-28-2016, 05:59 PM
 
Location: Clearwater, FL
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I am in my twenties and my husband is in his fifties. We have two small children and have been together for nearly five years, now. So, I would agree that *some older men would take dating younger women seriously--this perception is solely based upon my personal experience, although I am certain I am not the only 20 something yr old dating/married to someone who is considerably older.

I do think my husband--sometimes--would like for me to be more submissive. I am not at all the submissive type--quite the opposite. My husband sometimes feels that I have taken on his role, because I am very authoritative and commanding--or like he would say, I boss him around (unintentionally...that is just the way I am). Of course, this sometimes causes arguments in the relationship, because he feels that I should "act more like a woman." I don't necessarily agree with these views, but I would say that most men do like to be the dominant ones in their relationships.

If a person's okay with being submissive--to a reasonable extent--then, I would see nothing wrong with being with an older guy who is dominant. Whether he takes the (younger) woman seriously or not, would take serious pondering, because there are many factors that would affect the man's views of the woman. But yeah, there are older men who look for serious relationships with younger women--and not just for pleasure/amusement. I would expect that at 42, a man would want to settle and look for a woman to be in a long term relationship with, but of course, this is not always the case.
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Old 03-28-2016, 06:33 PM
 
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I'm not in my 40s yet but in my experience the vast majority of 22-25 yo ladies want very little to nothing to do with the old 40 something men. They might flirt around at the bar or whatever but they're looking for someone more in their late twenties to early thirties.
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Old 03-28-2016, 08:04 PM
 
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What about women in their 40s? do they take men in their 20s seriously? I want to know that?
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Old 03-29-2016, 12:58 AM
 
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Do men aged 42 see women aged 22 as *serious* dating material? By serious I mean, considering long-term and marriage (not just for fun)?

And do things change any if the man is specifically a dominant who wants a submissive (for lifestyle, not just in the bedroom), rather than wanting a "normal" relationship? Is he going to only be in it for the enjoyment of it, or will he take her seriously as a prospect?

I know it will vary man to man, but how can you tell?
I'm 29 and wouldn't take a 22 year old girl seriously (wouldn't go under 25 for something serious).

Can't imagine this will change as I get older.
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