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There are a bunch of men who come to this forum and whine about their inability to get dates, get laid, or sustain a relationship. A lot of them would probably be deemed as nice guys.
They can. And do. And they wind up in lasting relationships. Brash, fun jerks get a relationship then lose it when the woman finds out the jerk part.
Someone that's confident and brash doesn't have to be a jerk. I've always taken brash as confidence more often than not and there's not much wrong with that IMO.
( again that's my understanding of brash I'm not sure if it has a different meaning across the pond? )
This is interesting. So rather than learn so you can be happy, you will bide your time so you can get revenge in a few decades? Pathetic. Did you read the article? Or thread?
Why do you care what I do? I know you want nice guys to stay chumps so we'll be around in ten years as your backup option. No thanks. Live your life. I'll live mine.
I guess I am asking the guys who whine about not getting women and being a nice guy, does this resonate at all? Just not being a bunch of bad stuff is not very compelling? That the LCD is YOU. I mean not you, but said whiner. Or for women, does this resonate with you when someone complains about their inability to get a mate?
I agree with the article 100%...'nice' guys have to step up a bit if they want to get noticed. I date a lot of introverts who think that showing up and agreeing with everything a woman says or wants to do is enough. It isn't. You have to act like you WANT to be with her.
But I also have to say, in all my whole dating life, I've never had a live person discuss this 'nice guys' phenomenon with me or in my presence. I've never rejected a 'nice guy' in favor of a bad boy. I'd rather be alone. I guess I hang around a lot of nice people.
Why do you care what I do? I know you want nice guys to stay chumps so we'll be around in ten years as your backup option. No thanks. Live your life. I'll live mine.
Are you on the wind up or something? When did she imply that? LOL
You seem quite sensitive on the given subject what's wrong mate?........... Now don't worry I'm not interfering or interested in your life but I will sit here and keep on laughing if you don't mind......
Someone that's confident and brash doesn't have to be a jerk. I've always taken brash as confidence more often than not and there's not much wrong with that IMO.
( again that's my understanding of brash I'm not sure if it has a different meaning across the pond? )
I don't even see why fun would be considered opposite of nice. My husband is fun. Family walks with the dogs instead of watching tv. Vacations. Playing games. Joking. He sings me love songs. My husband is nice. He listens to me. He cooked me a lovely dinner the other night. He does things I ask. He does random nice things for me. He holds and comforts me when I am upset...
I agree with the article 100%...'nice' guys have to step up a bit if they want to get noticed. I date a lot of introverts who think that showing up and agreeing with everything a woman says or wants to do is enough. It isn't. You have to act like you WANT to be with her.
But I also have to say, in all my whole dating life, I've never had a live person discuss this 'nice guys' phenomenon with me or in my presence. I've never rejected a 'nice guy' in favor of a bad boy. I'd rather be alone. I guess I hang around a lot of nice people.
I think the "bad boy" thing is largely young women who don't know any better. Then they learn. Or of course, some of them don't learn either and wonder that they wind up "unlucky" in love.
Why do you care what I do? I know you want nice guys to stay chumps so we'll be around in ten years as your backup option. No thanks. Live your life. I'll live mine.
The only one you are hurting is yourself. Hopefully you will realize that before it's too late.
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You seem quite sensitive on the given subject what's wrong mate?........... Now don't worry I'm not interfering or interested in your life but I will sit here and keep on laughing if you don't mind...... 
