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Old 03-30-2016, 05:06 PM
 
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Gab

Straight up ... this ^^ is WRONG. Wrong wrong wrong.

If you think this, it means you think people only have value according to what other people think of them. It's called a reflected sense of self.

Reflected Sense of Self Versus Solid Sense of Self | Lorna Hecht

I've posted this before on your threads. Obviously it had NO effect on you whatsoever.

Do you see how that way of thinking is wrong??????
I don't remember this one. I remember you posted one about self compassion and thatone stuck with me.

I just feel like people are going to look at me and know something is wrong because anyone who tries as hard as I do would be in a relationship.

I did cancel 2 dates this week which I guess is kind of good because both kind of had red flags. It makes me feel like a bad person for thinking that about them but my therapist said it's for the best
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Old 03-30-2016, 05:50 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I just feel like people are going to look at me and know something is wrong because anyone who tries as hard as I do would be in a relationship.
More ^^^ random, meaningless benchmarks set by you and absolutely no one else on Earth.
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Old 03-30-2016, 06:14 PM
 
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Here you go. The man of your dreams. Right here on C-D!

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Old 03-30-2016, 07:47 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Here you go. The man of your dreams. Right here on C-D!

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Omg!
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Old 03-30-2016, 08:01 PM
 
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Here you go. The man of your dreams. Right here on C-D!

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Any man who makes love accordingly is a real man.
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Old 03-30-2016, 08:02 PM
 
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Here you go. The man of your dreams. Right here on C-D!

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I didn't even read that to the end because 53 is way too old.
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Old 03-30-2016, 08:12 PM
 
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I didn't even read that to the end because 53 is way too old.
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Old 03-30-2016, 10:29 PM
 
Location: Between West Chester and Chester, PA
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Old 03-30-2016, 10:30 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Someone wanted you and married you that does make you more valuable than someone who isn't wanted
Not having met a longterm partner yet at a young age doesn't make a person "not wanted."
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Old 03-30-2016, 10:37 PM
 
Location: Earth
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Not having met a longterm partner yet at a young age doesn't make a person "not wanted."
Well Op's view may be different. I think she mentioned it was common to see women her age married or in long-term relationships.

Like if you're single in a small town, and everyone's getting married or having babies out of HS and you're not, then you start feeling like an old-maid at 26, and single.
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