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How rural is rural? How far away are you from the closest village, town, city?
Relationships take compromise, so if you're digging in your heels about where you live before you've even met someone, and expecting they'll move to accommodate you, you may be waiting a very long time. Other than you, what would be the draw for someone to give up their life in their area to come to yours? What are the job and lifestyle opportunities that would make it appealing to relocate to where you are?
My husband is from an extremely rural community. He and his brother both had to move to a more populated area for work and met their wives online because they weren't interested in anyone in their high school classes. Their high school classes generally made one of two choices: stay in town and marry young to someone in their high school class; or leave town for an education and then marry later.
His sister is in her late 30s and has never met anyone to date or marry, but she is very attached to the land and won't leave the area. She keeps hoping to meet a nice farmer, but all the neighboring farmers are about 30 years older than her. She has pretty much rejected everyone that has approached her that isn't settled in the area, even if they are just from a few counties over.
Hang out at whatever local watering hole there is in your small rural community and see if you meet someone you like? Be involved in your small town rural church, or other community social clubs or events to meet other potential singles within a reasonable difference?
Although the pool of eligible is smaller, there is no magic formula to dating because your in a rural and not an urban area. You just have to be out there somehow, in person, online, whatever, so you can meet and connect with singles.
I don't go to church. The bar is generally open from the beginning of May through October depending on weather, and I do go, especially when folks are playing music. The only other "social club" I can think of that we have is Wednesday night beer club at my best friend's house... bonfire, beer & bs. I go sometimes.
Well I live in a very rural community myself so am waiting to hear what folks have to say. One thing I will say though is that decent and intelligent people can be found everywhere. My biggest problem here is that they're all married.
Pretty much see the same people everyday when I go somewhere. I'm not interested in anyone around here, but at the same time I don't care enough to move for the sake of a relationship. I have better things to do. If you want to see who's out there; go to the mall, out to eat, any public place really.
How rural is rural? How far away are you from the closest village, town, city?
Relationships take compromise, so if you're digging in your heels about where you live before you've even met someone, and expecting they'll move to accommodate you, you may be waiting a very long time. Other than you, what would be the draw for someone to give up their life in their area to come to yours? What are the job and lifestyle opportunities that would make it appealing to relocate to where you are?
I live north of Fairbanks and my "town" (which is not actually a town, but a CDP, a Census Designated Place) has maybe around a hundred people.
I never said I wasn't willing to compromise. Don't put words in my mouth. I just said above that I had not previously considered a LDR but that I now would. There are excellent job and lifestyle opportunities here for people who like to be outdoors. If a guy doesn't like to be outside, we're not going to get along anyways.
Well I live in a very rural community myself so am waiting to hear what folks have to say. One thing I will say though is that decent and intelligent people can be found everywhere. My biggest problem here is that they're all married.
Right, I have a 7-year old niece so I spend a lot of time with my family. There are lots of great people out there... Married people.
I'm in a generally rural area I guess. could be worse or better. Like another poster said, many marry from a high school relationship or relocate for an education and get married. Many I know that have done the latter haven't returned to the area. Those that are still in the area are generally single.
I've come to the conclusion I'll have to move. Either 18 or 80 single in this area it seems.
I live north of Fairbanks and my "town" (which is not actually a town, but a CDP, a Census Designated Place) has maybe around a hundred people.
I never said I wasn't willing to compromise. Don't put words in my mouth. I just said above that I had not previously considered a LDR but that I now would. There are excellent job and lifestyle opportunities here for people who like to be outdoors. If a guy doesn't like to be outside, we're not going to get along anyways.
What I mean is that you're open to an LDR but only if they move to you. What if you meet someone who is LD and you really hit it off, but they don't want to live in a population of 100? Are you going to be willing to move, or meet halfway?
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