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9/10 of the replies are just piling on the usual knee jerk "cheaters are scum of the earth", instead of responding to the o.p.'s thoughts. Can we just for one thread get past the obvious? Men and women are very different, just in case some of you haven't noticed. You can insist otherwise till the cows come home but it won't make it true. A study was recently done where men and women were propositioned by total strangers of the opposite sex. Almost all the men went for the bait. NONE of the women did. None.
However, in real life, cheating situations rarely involve total strangers, and when/if a woman cheats on a man chances are GOOD that it will be someone he knows very well. And chances are GOOD that her heart is gone to that man that she is knocking boots with. In other words "its over pal", sorry you had to find out this way. Guys cheat because they could, and in many cases the primary relationship or marriage could in fact be salvaged afterwards. More women should learn from Hillary Clinton. If she had dumped her lowlife cheating scum of a husband she would not now have one of the best in the business running her campaign for the White House.
No one should be a doormat, but men and women both should try not to be hasty. Americans marry too early and too easily. Both conditions make a cheating scenario almost inevitable. I met my second wife at 46 y.o. I am 57 now, have never cheated, and might just make it till death us do part totally faithful. Had we met at 22 and I had never had any other woman but her... ... seriously... ya think? But this is exactly what many of you expect. That young people in their 20's should behave with the maturity and decency of middle aged people with a lot to lose. It isn't reasonable.
It has been proven in studies that attractive women get favorable treatment in the legal system. That same thing happens when they do something that is immoral but not illegal.
I don't agree with throwing the person out in either case and have said so in the past. If he or she lives there, the person has a right to be evicted through legal means and not be rendered homeless. Destroying someone else's property is not OK.
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I know a woman who cheated, and when confronted SHE through HIM out, changed the locks
He went through the legal means to regain access to his house, but it took some time
He got back at her tenfold though...she lives in a crappy apartment now, in the ghetto, and doesn't have a pot to pi$$ in...luckily although they were trying for kids, he divorced her before she got pregnant
yeah the throwing stuff out drama is childish...just end it and move on
This is not a gender thing. It's really stupid to assume it to be a gender thing because it's equally bad whether a man or a woman cheat on their partner in any relationship. Anyone who cheats on anyone is a scumbag loser and it doesn't matter if they are a male or female because it applies to BOTH. Period end of story.
9/10 of the replies are just piling on the usual knee jerk "cheaters are scum of the earth", instead of responding to the o.p.'s thoughts. Can we just for one thread get past the obvious?
On CDR there are a lot of posters directly or indirectly affected by cheating; often without clarity on what lead up to the infidelity... I have come to expect the usual knee jerk reaction.
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Men and women are very different, just in case some of you haven't noticed. You can insist otherwise till the cows come home but it won't make it true. A study was recently done where men and women were propositioned by total strangers of the opposite sex. Almost all the men went for the bait. NONE of the women did. None.
Yup... For me this study clarifies difference between genders. This is just one tid-bit:
"Lowe sexual satisfaction was only associated with infidelity in men. Sixty-nine percent of men who reported lower sexual satisfaction engaged in infidelity, compared to 47% of men who had not. Regardless of infidelity status, 40% of women reported low sexual satisfaction. Perceived sexual incompatibility was also more commonly associated with infidelity among men than among women"
Well, today with the shirt sleeve pride and the fragile nature of people... people now kill each other behind such stuff.
If you don't want to be in a relationship - "leave" !!!! it's much safer for all involved.
Crimes of passion aren't exactly a modern or new thing.
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