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Reason I ask, is if you meet someone online, don't you take a bit of time getting to know each other prior to meeting? via messages/text/call?
When I did OLD, I wanted to meet up with the person as soon as was practicable.
I found that any sort of protracted "getting to know one another" before meeting in person was an absolute waste of time if there was no in-person chemistry. Aside from that, I also wanted to know how the other person conducted themselves in real-time. All the talking online or on the phone meant nothing to me if he was crappy to a waitress or was awkward in-person, etc.
When I did OLD, I wanted to meet up with the person as soon as was practicable.
I found that any sort of protracted "getting to know one another" before meeting in person was an absolute waste of time if there was no in-person chemistry. Aside from that, I also wanted to know how the other person conducted themselves in real-time. All the talking online or on the phone meant nothing to me if he was crappy to a waitress or was awkward in-person, etc.
30 sec to 30mins? Do you guys go on a lot of blind dates?
Reason I ask, is if you meet someone online, don't you take a bit of time getting to know each other prior to meeting? via messages/text/call?
No, I don't lol. If they don't ask me out within 5-10 messages I will think they have a gf and just wanted some attention or they're just messing around. How long do you talk to someone before you ask them out?
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When I did OLD, I wanted to meet up with the person as soon as was practicable.
I found that any sort of protracted "getting to know one another" before meeting in person was an absolute waste of time if there was no in-person chemistry. Aside from that, I also wanted to know how the other person conducted themselves in real-time. All the talking online or on the phone meant nothing to me if he was crappy to a waitress or was awkward in-person, etc.
I fully agree. Faster the better, and its worked out better. Weeks of emails or texting was a guaranteed sign of going to fail by most accounts.
And phone convos are beyond useless to me, it doesn't represent how most people communicate in person.
No, I don't lol. If they don't ask me out within 5-10 messages I will think they have a gf and just wanted some attention or they're just messing around. How long do you talk to someone before you ask them out?
I found most of my exchanges on OLD went like this:
Him: "hi how are you"
Me: "I'm fine thank you. How are you?"
Him: "i'm good too nice day out"
And that was the end of that. For the most part, 5 messages in was still exchanging pleasantries. If I initiated contact, 98% of them didn't respond. I only responded to the "hi how are you's" because if I didn't, I'd have nothing at all to respond to.
My best friend got to the point he could tell by a woman's initial response to him whether or not they'd end up meeting.
No, I don't lol. If they don't ask me out within 5-10 messages I will think they have a gf and just wanted some attention or they're just messing around. How long do you talk to someone before you ask them out?
When I meet someone in real life, our conversations are typically brief (pleasantries/chitchat/exchange numbers) there's really no way I can tell if we have 'chemistry' within that short time.
Personally, I don't put much stock into the 'chemistry/connection'. I don't know how many times Ive encountered awesome chemistry only to have that relationship fail. So Blah! to that. I just want to meet women and have fun (that's my main goal) and if something materializes, great.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Personally, I don't put much stock into the 'chemistry/connection'. I don't know how many times Ive encountered awesome chemistry only to have that relationship fail. So Blah! to that. I just want to meet women and have fun (that's my main goal) and if something materializes, great.
Have you ever had a relationship work out without a chemistry / connection though? Like as in develop an emotional connection?
I've had plenty with chemistry not work out, but if that connection was there then in almost every case that person became a friend, so I counted it as a successful connection.
I don't even know what I'd base a relationship on if I didn't have chemistry with someone. I sure wouldn't want to get down with them. I've tried to force that with cute chicks where there is no chemistry and the sex was never worth taking my clothes off for.
I found most of my exchanges on OLD went like this:
Him: "hi how are you"
Me: "I'm fine thank you. How are you?"
Him: "i'm good too nice day out"
And that was the end of that. For the most part, 5 messages in was still exchanging pleasantries. If I initiated contact, 98% of them didn't respond. I only responded to the "hi how are you's" because if I didn't, I'd have nothing at all to respond to.
My best friend got to the point he could tell by a woman's initial response to him whether or not they'd end up meeting.
So ask them a question in return
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