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Thank you. No kids. I have retained an attorney and am filing for divorce myself. The initial shock has worn off and as I learned more information I realized I underestimated her deceit, and that she continues to have her male friend into our house while I am away at work and they are making plans for him to move in and also he intends to give her money to help secure the house for herself.
At this point I am still working through the reinterpretation of my self-identity, and expect that to continue. I am also focused on securing my financial future and approaching the settlement like a business transaction.
I'm not sure what options there are, but I'd ask your attorney if there is any way to stop her from having him move in while you're still there going through the divorce.
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Originally Posted by Clint.
She can afford the mortgage payments easily as could I. She can continue living there after the divorce if she likes, she just has to pay me enough for me to agree to that, otherwise she will have to litigate only to have a judge say it must be sold.
In any case however I'm not leaving until a deal has been submitted and approved by the court, or however I am advised by my attorney.
Yes, I plan to ask him about the guy's entrance. I have proof from multiple days that he continues to enter the house unaided while I am at work. I also have proof that he was handling my medication which I am storing in the dining room.
The one question that hasn't been answered: why is she so callous toward your feelings? Bringing another guy into your (jointly-owned) house while you're there? That's very unusual. There's got to be a back-story there.
She must have no conscience to begin with, or there's something more that generates this attitude. Whatever it is, OP has to be determined to look forward.
Lose ANY false imagination, such as your speakers wire may help revert your scores. Forget about the cats either, adopt new cats or consider dogs!
Yes. I have to monitor my small living area in the living room, and during that time learned he is entering the house unaided, and bringing her ritalin. I also learned that he is planning to move in and help with future housing costs.
As for her ethics, I am not going to speculate beyond that she is an emotionally dependant person with high anxiety who can be very self-centered, so just leaving on her own without another guy to lean on was probably not an option for her. I was in denial about much of this for years I think. That's what my mother has been telling me.
You should put Nair in their shampoo...Just kidding.
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