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In that case, just go for the arranged marriage with whomever your parents pick for you.
I agree. You don't seem to want to pursue your own desires, so you're better off sitting back and accepting the easy, cushy, rule-bound life your parents offer. Otherwise you have to commit to being your own man and doing your own thing.
You can't sit on the fence and expect the benefits of both!
Good advise Wes666<<< you don't have the 666 on your facebook handle do you lol?
I think everyone has had the childhood crush. Need to man up and forget about this one. Stop moping and meet other women. If you're an Indian check out the series Master of None on Netflix.. pretty funny stuff.. might help you loosen up a bit in interacting with women.
I agree. You don't seem to want to pursue your own desires, so you're better off sitting back and accepting the easy, cushy, rule-bound life your parents offer. Otherwise you have to commit to being your own man and doing your own thing.
You can't sit on the fence and expect the benefits of both!
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i went after everything i desired in life except for that girl, most of what i went after, it has been a success.
so i wouldn't consider myself as someone who doesn't pursue my own desires....it's just that i felt like there was too much at stake for me to do something about that girl ( considering how religious both of our parents were)
i went after everything i desired in life except for that girl, most of what i went after, it has been a success.
so i wouldn't consider myself as someone who doesn't pursue my own desires....it's just that i felt like there was too much at stake for me to do something about that girl ( considering how religious both of our parents were)
She is no one to you, and you are no one to her. Let it go, there is nothing there but a fantasy in your head.
I'm sorry. Love, crushes and all that come when you actually know someone, you talk, you get together and hang out.
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I've had a crush on a girl for 9 years now and after finally meeting her on facebook it feels like she's not interested in anyway...?
i was 11 when i liked her first...we were friends then(kind of) ...but after we didn't see each other..but i always used to think of her...but for the past 2 years or so my feelings for her have been growing so much..and i finally found her on facebook, sent her a friend request...she accepted it but after that when i try talking to her she ignores my msgs...even for a simple msg like "hey!..how are you?" she doesn't reply....and it hurts me reall bad...and i don't think i can get over her...is there anything i can do?...
(read this if you have too much time to spend)i guess i'll tell you how i started liking her..
we used to dance and stuff in church for special meetings...after a week of one of our performance i saw her outside the church with her mum...and i was with my mum......she saw me and got excited ( i guess) and she started jumping..and then i felt something that i've never felt for a girl...for some reason i didn't react then but inside i felt like the happiest kid in the world...i didn't know it was a crush back then but a few years later i realized it was a crush and until now i can't stop thinking about her...
Wow!!! 9 years?
Ouch. Dude, I sympathize. I don't know how you can get over her. But you are definitely going to have to try to forget about her.
.it's just that i felt like there was too much at stake for me to do something about that girl ( considering how religious both of our parents were)
Didn't you meet her at church? I would think that would be a plus, even if she is not also Indian. (My Indian friend received a lot of pressure to marry a gal from India, and was even given a timeline to find one or his parents would find one for him. He followed his heart and last month married an American).
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Originally Posted by wes666
i guess i'll tell you how i started liking her.. we used to dance and stuff in church for special meetings...after a week of one of our performance i saw her outside the church with her mum...and i was with my mum......she saw me and got excited ( i guess) and she started jumping..
How did you allow your feelings to grow for someone you never dated, and someone who doesn't bother with you?
I am dumbfounded that you would choose to pine away for someone since you were 11, and wasted your entire teen years on fantasies. You only get one life to live and you've wasted much of your youth on something you've created in your own head that doesn't exist in reality. Why on earth would you keep choosing to do this? You can control your thoughts instead of sitting back and letting them control you.
Hey, he was a kid, none of us dudes think straight during those years. Sucks that his whole teens have turned out that way, but he still has his life ahead of him.
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