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Originally Posted by supertrucker212
Funymann has a point, however, I think confidence is like sales skills, to a point, you either have it or you don't. Some people just have it naturally. OP I'm sure you've heard the terms, "type A personality" and "alpha male," and "charisma." Those are things that a person is or just naturally has and can't be attained, (I'm adding this sentence in because you are talking about attracting women),. I was timid until I was in my early 20's. I can't say one event or series of events changed it but over time I just became more confident, (as far as approaching people in general),. I do know that while I gained confidence I've come to terms with the fact that I'm a type "B" personality who's also more introverted. Not the type of dude that women flock to. I would follow funymann's advise, but also keep in mind that while you may gain confidence you are what you are. And if you're like me, (personality type wise), you'll probably never be a pro at approaching women. I'm not saying you won't be able to do it but you'll have to plan it out in your head for as opposed to just doing it on the fly
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I think you are correct when it comes to things like charisma and humor...those things can be refined and improved with relevant life experiences and practice, but at a base level they're a "you got it or you don't". But I somewhat disagree when it comes to confidence. While you are right about the "you are what you are"...I think anyone is capable of building confidence. If the person is willing to step out of his comfort zone and just
go for it occasionally (i.e. courage), then that alone can go a long way. No need to be perfect or a "pro" or try too hard...just
try. Heck, naturally being a little awkward or slightly nervous may actually be a positive in the eyes of some women.