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Old 04-17-2016, 05:49 PM
 
Location: H-town, TX.
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Would you accept that?
I wouldn't even notice. Good for them.
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Old 04-19-2016, 08:44 AM
 
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I am surprised and pleased by the open-minded replies. I'm wondering as an 'older woman' when I get messaged on a dating site by men 15+ years younger, what's the big attraction- really? Beause of the big age difference I automatically feel suspicious and don't know whether or not to reply. Maybe that's because I've been out of the dating loop for decades...?
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Old 04-19-2016, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I am surprised and pleased by the open-minded replies. I'm wondering as an 'older woman' when I get messaged on a dating site by men 15+ years younger, what's the big attraction- really? Beause of the big age difference I automatically feel suspicious and don't know whether or not to reply. Maybe that's because I've been out of the dating loop for decades...?
All you'll be wasting is some typing time and you can usually figure out pretty quick whether they're serious or just trying out the "cougar" thing because they've heard it's so supposedly easy and/ or aren't getting anywhere with their own age group.
You can always suggest meeting at Chuckee-Cheese and if they say yes.....run!
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Old 04-19-2016, 10:51 AM
 
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I am surprised and pleased by the open-minded replies. I'm wondering as an 'older woman' when I get messaged on a dating site by men 15+ years younger, what's the big attraction- really? Beause of the big age difference I automatically feel suspicious and don't know whether or not to reply. Maybe that's because I've been out of the dating loop for decades...?
I hate to say this, because I don't want to diminish actual such relationships that have worked out, but I think there's this mythology that "older women" don't require the "games" (read: actually being taken out somewhere and treated like a person) that the "young hotties" do. The idea is that the older woman is aggressive, will pay for your drink rather than the other way around, respond very favorably to a direct, romance-free suggestion of having sex and once in the bedroom, this horny, lonely, aggressive, grateful person will give the "younger guy" the ride of his life.

As I said, this isn't the way it has to be. There are wonderful, romantic age-difference stories out there. But if you're getting loads of approaches from much younger guys who know absolutely zip about you, well...
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Old 04-19-2016, 11:28 AM
 
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I am surprised and pleased by the open-minded replies. I'm wondering as an 'older woman' when I get messaged on a dating site by men 15+ years younger, what's the big attraction- really? Beause of the big age difference I automatically feel suspicious and don't know whether or not to reply. Maybe that's because I've been out of the dating loop for decades...?
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I hate to say this, because I don't want to diminish actual such relationships that have worked out, but I think there's this mythology that "older women" don't require the "games" (read: actually being taken out somewhere and treated like a person) that the "young hotties" do. The idea is that the older woman is aggressive, will pay for your drink rather than the other way around, respond very favorably to a direct, romance-free suggestion of having sex and once in the bedroom, this horny, lonely, aggressive, grateful person will give the "younger guy" the ride of his life.

As I said, this isn't the way it has to be. There are wonderful, romantic age-difference stories out there. But if you're getting loads of approaches from much younger guys who know absolutely zip about you, well...
I was always interested in and attracted to women older than me and not just for sex this goes clear back to when I was 20 years old. Most recently this was someone over 50 and over 10 years older than me because I adored her personality and found her attractive as well. However I am officially done with them, and only go for younger now. This last one, was the last straw. If you're already dating one fine but it's the pre-dating mating dance in which I have found they are terrible.

They play more games than younger women, have more issues than younger women, more baggage than younger women, too set in their ways compared to younger women, more insecurities than younger women which causes problems during the wooing process, the list is endless. They are much worse for pursuing than a younger woman and I don't blame any guy for going younger after what I have experienced.
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Old 04-19-2016, 11:29 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Would you accept that?
Would it make a difference if I wouldn't?


Let's try it:


I don't accept it. Will they stop dating now?
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Old 04-19-2016, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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I hate to say this, because I don't want to diminish actual such relationships that have worked out, but I think there's this mythology that "older women" don't require the "games" (read: actually being taken out somewhere and treated like a person) that the "young hotties" do. The idea is that the older woman is aggressive, will pay for your drink rather than the other way around, respond very favorably to a direct, romance-free suggestion of having sex and once in the bedroom, this horny, lonely, aggressive, grateful person will give the "younger guy" the ride of his life.

As I said, this isn't the way it has to be. There are wonderful, romantic age-difference stories out there. But if you're getting loads of approaches from much younger guys who know absolutely zip about you, well...

When I was on OLD some of the younger guys TOTALLY gave off that vibe.
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Old 04-19-2016, 12:22 PM
 
Location: United States
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Two consenting adults ... no coercion involved = nobody's business but theirs.
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Old 04-19-2016, 01:49 PM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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I hate to say this, because I don't want to diminish actual such relationships that have worked out, but I think there's this mythology that "older women" don't require the "games" (read: actually being taken out somewhere and treated like a person) that the "young hotties" do. The idea is that the older woman is aggressive, will pay for your drink rather than the other way around, respond very favorably to a direct, romance-free suggestion of having sex and once in the bedroom, this horny, lonely, aggressive, grateful person will give the "younger guy" the ride of his life.

As I said, this isn't the way it has to be. There are wonderful, romantic age-difference stories out there. But if you're getting loads of approaches from much younger guys who know absolutely zip about you, well...
Totally. ^ I have a younger male friend who is constantly going after older women because they're easy targets. It's a quick lay, he gets to brag & feel like a mack, all while gaining sexual experience for when he meets the younger woman of his dreams. It's kinda sick actually, but whatever. . . He has a very bossy/controling mother - which I believe plays into his mentality as well. (Sexual conquests n all that.. ) The older woman is like a surrogate Mom who's dtf.. Lol
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Old 04-19-2016, 04:19 PM
 
Location: Moreno Valley, Ca
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It doesn't have to be accepted by anyone other than the two involved. Not everyone (family and friends) will be all comfy with the idea, but the notion that they absolutely should not be dating is silly.


OP, maybe it's just a fling anyway - no harm in that. If it is serious and successful, then good for the both of them!
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