Giving a gift to a co-worker who has a bf?

[bobman]

Creepy

[hawaiiancoconut]

That $90 watch isn't going make her leave her trainer f buddy, so forget it, guy.

Return that watch, buy her a card, and take yourself out for a nice dinner. I also, suggest no 'hair/back' touching at work; that crap will only bring unwanted drama/attention.

[rego00123]

Originally Posted by SaUZE_BOSS

She told me countless number of times when she had a rocky relationship with her other boyfriend, she asked me numerous amount of times on how we should "go kickboxing, lets go to the gym", "we should go out"

and me, like a brain-dead idiot never reacted much to it. I was scared, I was scared of a hot-girl liking me, because I never really got much attention from women growing up. I'm 27, and i very much feel like a late-bloomer, plus it was mentally anguishing because she was my co-worker, and the whole thing could of blowed up in my face.

There's a-lot of regret in me, but i feel whatever happens, happens for a reason. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

Deep down, i know she really feels something about me, but i glimpsed at her iphone quickly,, and it had a picture of a heart next to her Boyfriend's name, but mine didn't have a heart next to mine.


Those feels.......

She is acting emotionally and creating openings for herself to act on if she chooses to at some point in time.

Anyone who is going to confide their relationship issuse before they are actually done is.
You're an outlet for her, she is looking for what she doesn't get elsewhere. She is using her security with you to feel better about herself and her situation.

This is why people try to avoid rebound relationships, which is essentially what is happening here. They are not based in logical and rational, they are based in filling gaps missing to feel whole again.

I hate to break it to you, but if she was actually interested in you (truly interested) she wouldn't have allowed you to remain where you are right now...

[oceangaia]

She has you securely in the friend box, and because you seem comfortable with that, she is comfortable around you and lets you get away with things she would not allow from another guy.

I doubt she is physically attracted to you. She is into fitness, her new bf is into fitness, so clearly fitness is a key element of what she finds attractive. She asked you to the gym because she sees you as a friend and she thinks you should be in better shape.

[jjrose]

Originally Posted by SaUZE_BOSS

From January till present, she is seeing someone else, but has yet to tell me because we get along so nice at work, i give her random messages, I'm able to touch her hair, , she softly claws my lower back, pinches my stomach, etc... I'm one of the co-workers that is able to pull this off, I don't believe she would be comfortable if other guys did it to her.

Originally Posted by SaUZE_BOSS

I'm sort of out-of shape. So i have quite a bit of fat on my hips, and usually when I'm walking and i see her, she'll just grab my stomach or my hips.

And sometimes she tells me to give her messages, she is a fitness chick, and the guy she is with is also a personal trainer at a gym (who woulda thought) and at times she tells me to feel her legs and she shows me her stomach and tells me to touch it.

Originally Posted by SaUZE_BOSS

But I'm able to touch her, I can massage her, play with her hair, I can even get close to her, tell her to take her earrings off and i can play with her ears.

Do you do any actual work at work?

[hawaiiancoconut]

Originally Posted by jjrose

Do you do any actual work at work?

I bet a lot of mistakes already been made at work, LOl.