Is there anything to worry about?? (marriage, woman, lover, cheating)

[Rob969]

Well honestly, I think she does have a crush on her. I know that doesn't mean she'd try to turn her into a lesbian. She has said my wife is perfect

[oh-eve]

Why not invite her over for dinner or do something on the weekend together?


You'll see what is all is about. The dynamics between them.


The boss can see how lovely you and your wife are together .... you know?

[Rob969]

Thanks for the responses. I guess when it comes down to it, I didn't have anyone to discuss this with either. Easier with a bunch of strangers

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by Rob969

Thanks for the responses. I guess when it comes down to it, I didn't have anyone to discuss this with either. Easier with a bunch of strangers

Are you both a little socially awkward?


Your wife not noticing somebody flirting with her.
You not knowing if the wife changed teams.


Again - I would meet "the enemy" and see what it is all about. Maybe you gain a friend, too. Maybe she will take a few steps back from your wife.

[Rob969]

Good idea.

[Rob969]

Well, if my wife realized she has a crush on her I'm not sure my wife would admit it. I'm sure there are many people who never realized their partner was fooling around. We've been around her many times, dinner, party etc. Hard to tell sometimes, but I'd say she adores my wife. However, that doesn't mean anything other than that

[convextech]

Originally Posted by Rob969

Well, if my wife realized she has a crush on her I'm not sure my wife would admit it. I'm sure there are many people who never realized their partner was fooling around. We've been around her many times, dinner, party etc. Hard to tell sometimes, but I'd say she adores my wife. However, that doesn't mean anything other than that

That would make me uncomfortable. It sounds like the boss has an issue with boundaries if she says & acts that way, OR your wife is encouraging it. I would look into that a little more.

[rego00123]

Business and pleasure have already been crossed.

Her boss is primarily the fault taker, your wife is at fault for allowing herself to "go their" and put herself in someone else's relationship

The situation talks like two people who are not thinking and just doing, which is where the worry you are experiencing is coming from.

If I where you I would just straight up ask why texts need to be so secretive and hidden from this one person since that appears to be what is driving your desire to snoop

[Just A Guy]

I would be a little concerned also if my wife was suddenly deleting texts from someone she was in constant contact with.

One of the main priorities of a relationship should be that each partner feel safe in that relationship. If my partner felt threatened in some way by something I was doing with another woman, I would be totally transparent and let her see any communications that were making her feel uncomfortable to ease her mind. The fact that your wife will not do that is very concerning.

[canadiangirl_2015]

here is my question, how do you know she is deleting texts? Do you check her phone. You see, my husband would have no way of knowing if I did or didn't delete a text because those are private conversations he wouldn't be looking at. So curious about this...I would guess she is deleting them because she knows you are snooping and wants to have private conversations, nothing more. She has proven herself for 25 years, she has a new friend, that's all. And if she is suddenly interested in women, you wouldn't be able to stop that anyways. But unlikely.