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When a minor child is in the picture, you PUT YOUR DREAMS ON HOLD BECAUSE THE CHILD COMES **FIRST** .. ALWAYS AND WITHOUT EXCEPTION!!
By the way, I did not marry "old"... My fiancé is NOT old.
Quit screaming. Nobody comes between me and my husband, not even our children. Doting on children as the center of the universe can royally screw them up. Add to that your apparent attitude that Daddy is third in line behind Queen Mommy and her beloved offspring ... well, I worry for your boy. Enjoy Indiana though.
When a minor child is in the picture, you PUT YOUR DREAMS ON HOLD BECAUSE THE CHILD COMES **FIRST** .. ALWAYS AND WITHOUT EXCEPTION!!
By the way, I did not marry "old"... My fiancé is NOT old.
It sounds like you're making it about your son's education, when it's really a matter of you not wanting to move . Neither of you are working and your son is only 3; why not take an extended trip to FL and make an objective decision based on how the schools actually are (not just how they are rated), the real estate situation, as well as what you can afford, considering his pension and Social Security will probably going further down there.
Quit screaming. Nobody comes between me and my husband, not even our children. Doting on children as the center of the universe can royally screw them up. Add to that your apparent attitude that Daddy is third in line behind Queen Mommy and her beloved offspring ... well, I worry for your boy. Enjoy Indiana though.
I think we're now seeing the results of this mentality from the last several years of this "helicopter" parenting. We've got a couple of millennials in our family that seem to have an exaggerated sense of importance because of this, one I particular is especially obnoxious and entitled.
The boyfriend will resent this over time. That will impact things.
The child is getting very attached, probably. What if the boyfriend bails?
The girlfriend pretty much "has to" stick with the boyfriend whether he acts "like a real man" or not at this point simply because it seems as if he's her bread and butter.
I just feel sad...I hope somehow this all works out, OP.
When a minor child is in the picture, you PUT YOUR DREAMS ON HOLD BECAUSE THE CHILD COMES **FIRST** .. ALWAYS AND WITHOUT EXCEPTION!!
By the way, I did not marry "old"... My fiancé is NOT old.
OK.
But DID you put your child first? Or did you use him to further your own cause?
I don't know the answer to those questions, understand, I'm just putting the questions out there. Is it SO NECESSARY that the 3 year old be exposed to ONLY THE VERY BEST schools? Because as far as I have seen, having 2 happy parents trumps anything a school might have to offer.
How can you argue over something that he hasn't seen since the 1960s and you've NEVER seen.
I'm just sayin' take a trip or something before any conversations taking sides on something neither of you know anything about.
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I was looking for work and my fiance Dennis brought up (and I agree) that it would be better for me and Thomas if I waited to pursue work until after he started kindergarten. It was like a huge brick was lifted off my shoulders because, although my head tells me that I want to get back in the work force, my heart wants to be home. Dennis was the one who brought it up, and he showed me just how much of a real man he was by putting us first and his aspirations at moving down to Florida dead-last. (Florida has crappy schools unless you live in the rich parts...I have done my research...and we already know about the crappy state of most Oklahoma schools). The schools in Fort Wayne in the NE part (where we live) are rated 7-10 out of 10 and receive an A rating from greatschools.org. The one I want to send Thomas to is about a mile away and rates 10/10. As long as we provide his transportation, I can send him to whatever school in town I want. I like Fort Wayne. Hate their winters, but I have really adapted to this city and their (for the most part) friendly people. But their summers are FABULOUS - usually in the 70s and low 80s and hardly no humidity. I don't mind staying here. It will be at the expense of Dennis's happiness, but he will get over it and what counts is he knows that Thomas is first. I think he came to his senses in that he realizes that once you have a kid, your dreams, i.e., him moving to Florida, will have to be put on hold either temporarily or even permanently.
1- The bold is a recipe for resentment.
2- Good parents can make just about any school system work.
3- The schools are fine in Florida.
4- Now would be a good time to make a move so you could check it out before your kid has to enroll in any school system.
5- This doesn't make him a real man. It just means he gave in to your wishes, which really aren't based on anything that holds much weight.
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. Neither of you are working and your son is only 3; why not take an extended trip to FL and make an objective decision based on how the schools actually are (not just how they are rated), the real estate situation, as well as what you can afford, considering his pension and Social Security will probably going further down there.
