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In that case, ignore them. 5 years is no big deal. Tell your roommate that it's a good thing she's not you. How did you know what the other woman thought? If it's your bf telling you this then he should be more mindful about how this affects you & should also defend your relationship! Alternatively, he should find other friends who aren't so judgemental.
It was his best friend's wife and everyone hates her anyway lol. I know you're right I'm starting to get over my roommates comment now
A five-year age difference between a couple is nothing to sneeze at...unless one of them is under the age of consent. Other than that, if you're happy with your boyfriend, then that's what matters.
Good lord, a 5 year age gap is that big of a deal?
Yea, I get it, for many in this forum community, anything greater than a plus 1 or 2 year age difference is cause for condemnation and fire and brimstone rhetoric. Yes, I get it.
For some of us though, 5 years ain't nothing, and this is something the OP may realize the older she gets.
Like others have said, 5 years is nothing. I have dated a few guys who were 10 years my senior. Now, I am VERY happily married to a man who is 17 years my senior.
I'm a 22 year old female and my boyfriend is 27. It doesn't bother either of us that we are 5 years apart but sometimes people make judgements. For example, my roommate who is 21 told her Dad she went on a date with a 26 year old guy and they joked about how he was a "grandpa." She told me this and I'm just thinking to myself, "you know my boyfriend is 27" :/ ? Also my boyfriend's best friends girlfriend made a comment how he was "dating a child"..referring to me.
I try not to take these comments personally but sometimes it bothers me. I'm about to graduate college and apply to graduate school and I'm a very mature person for my age that happens to like guys a little older than me. I don't see what the stigma is especially if we both make each other happy. Have any of you experienced this?
Five years looks and feels different at different stages of life. Early on in human development, it can represent a chasm of life's experience and growth. As you get older, this levels off. You will find as you age that the "stigma" of a five-year age gap will get less and less and eventually be nonexistent.
You'll also find that the opinions of others on this front will matter less and less to you and eventually be nonexistent, as well.
I would also really have to roll my eyes at anybody of any age suggesting that someone in his or her twenties is verging on geriatric. Your friend is making digs out of some personal motivation that has nothing to do with the age gap, here. Perhaps her own personal insecurity?
I think for a 22 year old, 5 is about the limit for an age gap. Just because the 27 year old is just getting established in a career typically, and the 22 year old is just getting started working full time. That 5 year age gap is nothing after everyone has a few years of adulthood and working full time behind them.
Experienced that some people like to make judgements? All the time. Generally caused by people being so pathetic in their own life - that they can only get off by looking down on the lives or choices of others in order to disparage or judge them.
To the question in your thread title however about whether there is an "issue" - only you can answer that. _You_ have to decide what you want from a relationship and then _you_ have to decide whether anything on that list is hampered or precluded by the age difference.
If not - then it does not matter if your partner is 5 years away from you or 50. If there is however - then only you can decide if it is a deal breaker - something to ignore - or something where compromise can be found.
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