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usually when I hook up with a girl, kissing is invlolved and a hug at the end of the night
Well last night I was with a girl and we didn't kiss at all or hug when she left
It was just a i had fun bye thing
I feel kind of weird that there was no affection
I mean she's cute and I enjoyed spending time with her
Is it normal to not show affection?
It was just a hookup. That's how they work much of the time. Why would you expect more? Did you tell her you liked her and would be interested in more than a passing hookup? It doesn't sound like it.
It was just a hookup. That's how they work much of the time. Why would you expect more? Did you tell her you liked her and would be interested in more than a passing hookup? It doesn't sound like it.
no cuz i didnt want to come off to strong
so i should have said soemthing like "so was this a one time thing or should i expect to see you again?"
so i should have said soemthing like "so was this a one time thing or should i expect to see you again?"
You're going about this all wrong. If you don't want a hookup, don't set it up as a hookup. Actually ask her out to do something, you know, like an informal date. Ask her to pizza or something. Is that too radically old-fashioned? You communicated to her that you wanted a hookup, and that's what you got. If that's not what you want, you should be communicating something different.
And maybe she's done with you. You served your purpose for the evening, and now you're past tense. Move on.
Such is the nature of things. Such casual encounters for sex, the whole one time use thing, is pretty common. Any hint of emotional attachment neither needed or wanted. If that's not what works, or what one wants, then it stands to reason its best to seek life elsewhere. Personally, I've only had two "one night stands" in my whole life. Each was a soon to be divorced, seperated lady, just looking to ....officially, I suppose, ..cut fence, and sink spur. There were no illusions that we would be playing house, in either case, but one of them had been a close friend , for a while. In the latter case, there was some emotional seasoning in the mix.
What started out as her just coming over go talk, vent , pop the safeties , so to speak, took an unexpected turn. No, I didn't take advantage of her emotional state. She was the one who actually initiated things. It came across as a....plea. So it felt to me, anyway. Something needed, as well as wanted. Still, emotion doesn't mean love. We never looked at each other the same way again. Not in a bad way, so much as we both knew things were changing, and we were moving on. That night was sort of a way to say goodbye. To each other and the old life.
That's what happened. She finished her divorce, and moved away, I wasn't far behind in moving away, and we haven't had any contact in years. I've never just "hooked up", with someone I didn't know, just for sex. Like an earlier poster said, that's just mutual masturbation. I need a bit more than that for it to be worth the effort. I could do a good workout and take care of the rest in the shower and get the same effect, and not have to change the bedding.
Why prolong the agony and kiss or hug when she will probably have to finish what you tried to start.... Alone.
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Ask her to pizza or something. Is that too radically old-fashioned? You communicated to her that you wanted a hookup, and that's what you got. If that's not what you want, you should be communicating something different.
