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If you are smart, you will make this another short-term relationship and get the heck out of there. It's a red flag that you've only been dating for a month or two and you've already met her kids. It is a huge giant waving red flag that she has had a kid taken away from her and put in foster care. That is some serious stuff because kids don't get taken away from their moms unless they have some really bad stuff going on. Those two things say that she has no idea about how to be a decent mother.
By the way. In the beginning of the relationship, most women will be all over you, not telling you they only want sex once a week. Even at 45. Maybe especially at 45!
I looked at some of your old posts. I see you are 38. I also saw what you said you would never date a woman who abandoned her kids. A kid put foster care is pretty much the same thing. She must have done something pretty bad to that kid to have her put in foster care.
I also see that you had a previous girlfriend who had some side action going on. I have to wonder if the same thing is happening with her.
If you are smart, you will make this another short-term relationship and get the heck out of there. It's a red flag that you've only been dating for a month or two and you've already met her kids. It is a huge giant waving red flag that she has had a kid taken away from her and put in foster care. That is some serious stuff because kids don't get taken away from their moms unless they have some really bad stuff going on. Those two things say that she has no idea about how to be a decent mother.
I think your girlfriend picker is broken.
Now that you mention it, she brought me to her place when her two sons were there on the second night we met. We met on POF dating site. We first met in person on the afternoon of March 19, and she invited me to her place on the night of March 20. I was surprised that she brought me to her kids so soon. Even when I dated the single mom of 4 kids in 2013, it wasn't until a month after I started dating that person when I met her kids.
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By the way. In the beginning of the relationship, most women will be all over you, not telling you they only want sex once a week. Even at 45. Maybe especially at 45!
She knows that I am falling in love with her, and I told her that I think about her every day. Yes, I know that it is too early to say love since we have only known each other for a month. I would be fine if she only wants sex once a week, as long as we are exclusive and she is ONLY intimate with me while we are dating!
If someone told me not to text them until Monday... I certainly wouldn't text them as soon as I woke up on Monday!
I'd let them decide when to reach out to me, I don't want to feel like I'm bothering someone..I don't like instructions on when I can talk.
I looked at some of your old posts. I see you are 38. I also saw what you said you would never date a woman who abandoned her kids. A kid put foster care is pretty much the same thing. She must have done something pretty bad to that kid to have her put in foster care.
I also see that you had a previous girlfriend who had some side action going on. I have to wonder if the same thing is happening with her.
I see what you are saying. I thought maybe my current girlfriend's daughter was in foster care because of the abusive ex-husband. But my girlfriend divorced her ex-husband years ago, and he was deported. Are you suspecting that maybe she was also abusive toward her daughter before the girl was sent to foster care?
Meeting her kids on the second date + one kid in foster care + wanting you to be her boyfriend forever after just a couple of dates + wanting sex only once a week = Very bad prospect for you if you continue on with this.
I see what you are saying. I thought maybe my current girlfriend's daughter was in foster care because of the abusive ex-husband. But my girlfriend divorced her ex-husband years ago, and he was deported. Are you suspecting that maybe she was also abusive toward her daughter before the girl was sent to foster care?
The goal with foster care is to place the kid back with the parent as soon as whatever crisis was happening has passed. Something is very fishy that she never got her daughter back.
I don't know what happened, but whatever it was, was very serious. I'm surprised you have never asked her about this because this is a very big deal. The fact that she has never talked to you about it also speaks volumes about how she is not being upfront with you about things.
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