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And to top off the legal advice, don't get romantically involved with an irresponsible person who doesn't share your financial values, and don't ignore red flags that indicate trouble.
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I realize there are lots of scenarios of course but do you think I am a bad man for making what I have worked for a concern?
No. Although *I* don't know if I could have married someone who doesn't trust me and is anticipating that I'll rifle through his pockets at the first hint of marital demise.
And to top off the legal advice, don't get romantically involved with an irresponsible person who doesn't share your financial values, and don't ignore the red flags that indicate trouble and incompatibility.
It's not always that simple though. Sometimes the man in question can initially marry a woman that acts responsible and agrees with finances and such only to do a 180 later.
It's not always that simple though. Sometimes the man in question can initially marry a woman that acts responsible and agrees with finances and such only to do a 180 later.
Yup, lots of things can happen. That's why you need to speak with a professional and figure out how to best protect yourself.
And, if you want a guarantee that you won't get fleeced, don't get married or get someone pregnant.
OP, if this is a concern, why not look for women in or close to your earning bracket? Your issue has such a simple solution. Why fret over hypotheticals? Make sound choices. A marriage between equals won't have the problem you outline. Why isn't that obvious?
See, that's one of the issues I also have. I'm not looking to get into an argument about men/women or any of that, but it's ridiculous that even if you don't get married you just need to spend x amount of time with a woman and you can be looking at most of what you have worked for taken away as if it meant nothing at all. As I said I grew up very poor and could even go birthdays and christmases with getting very little or even nothing, so it's only been the last few years of my life that I have ever really had much. And while again sure not every woman is looking to take everything, it greatly concerns me thinking how even not being married everything I have worked my ass off for could be gone in a flash.
Seeing what happened to my friend didn't help, granted in his case he had a kid but still it's no less devastating.
Choose women who also has assets, a career and good work ethic. The only way you will loose is if you marry someone who has nothing and refuses to work toward something. Make wise choices.
I think that it's understandable to worry about this when you aren't planning on marrying a specific person - however, if you were actually engaged to someone and were this worried about her stealing all your money when you divorce, I would think that maybe you aren't with the right person.
I would also say marriage isn't for everyone. There's no shame in not wanting to share your life with someone.
It sounds like he does actually want to share his life with someone, as long as he doesn't have to share any assets.
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