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Old 05-03-2016, 06:52 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Old 05-03-2016, 07:06 PM
 
Location: NW Nevada
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For me, its not so much the lost of luster, but the time and effort put into hooking up.
Indeed. I've never really done any "hooking up" , but I understand the premise. The mere thought of how it all works wearys me.
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Old 05-03-2016, 08:33 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Indeed. I've never really done any "hooking up" , but I understand the premise. The mere thought of how it all works wearys me.
Its not easy getting tail. I mean, I can make a few calls and set something up, but the things you have to do: Take me out to a nice dinner, HCoconut....I want to watch an NBA/NHL game, take me here, take me there....UGH!

Lol. Oh well, if you want it bad enough.....
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Old 05-04-2016, 07:16 AM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Its not easy getting tail. I mean, I can make a few calls and set something up, but the things you have to do: Take me out to a nice dinner, HCoconut....I want to watch an NBA/NHL game, take me here, take me there....UGH!

Lol. Oh well, if you want it bad enough.....
I'm quite surprised by that brah.....

The chase or challenge if you like of wooing a lady is the best part IMO and makes the end product a hell of a lot more enjoyable

From start to finish ...... " ello darlin where you been all my life? " and all the other charm, compliments etc, then arrange a date.

Whilst on the date I LOVE making a fuss about her and giving her the red carpet treatment from drinks/dinner/special event and making her feel beautiful and special and so forth.....

Courtship is in a way foreplay and is the buildup to sex, again for me that's the very best part of it! 💕💞❤️💘
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Old 05-04-2016, 07:27 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Its not easy getting tail. I mean, I can make a few calls and set something up, but the things you have to do: Take me out to a nice dinner, HCoconut....I want to watch an NBA/NHL game, take me here, take me there....UGH!

Lol. Oh well, if you want it bad enough.....
Jeez, yeah, that ain't worth it... I usually just have to meet someone for beers or mai tais. The worst thing about it is the mai tai hangover.
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Old 05-04-2016, 07:48 AM
 
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Jeez, yeah, that ain't worth it... I usually just have to meet someone for beers or mai tais. The worst thing about it is the mai tai hangover.

I was fortunate. I never really had to go out. Beers at my apartment and then you can figure out the rest. I tended to keep away from doing activities outside of my apartment with FWBs, because I didn't want to confuse the situation by it "feeling" like a date. Could be because deep down I knew they wanted more from me and deep down I knew I didn't. I can think so clear with this vow of celibacy.
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Old 05-04-2016, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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OP Just remember that marriage is not guarantee of a cure. Lots of people live in marriages with no love or sex. Now you're living with a person who doesn't care about you and so the rejection is right there in the flesh every day and night. Maybe you should start dating the old fashioned way, without the sex. First people would find out if they liked each other and had similar values and interests and whether they could get along and they did all this without the sex fog concealing the reality of what kind of relationship they actually had.
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Old 05-04-2016, 08:06 AM
 
Location: NW Nevada
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OP Just remember that marriage is not guarantee of a cure. Lots of people live in marriages with no love or sex. Now you're living with a person who doesn't care about you and so the rejection is right there in the flesh every day and night. Maybe you should start dating the old fashioned way, without the sex. First people would find out if they liked each other and had similar values and interests and whether they could get along and they did all this without the sex fog concealing the reality of what kind of relationship they actually had.
Verily, being married or totally committed is NOT a guarantee of sex whenever you want. To many factors figure in. As time goes on, lots of things happen. Namely ...life. Even if you both want to dive in, often, there is just no time. Being committed means dealing with come what may. Medical and some other issues often put my lady off on sex. Its u derstandable, and I roll with it. Generally, I let her give the signal, such as it is. She requires gentle and patient handling.

Marriage and commitment doesn't just open the door for anytime anyplace.
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Old 05-04-2016, 08:06 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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I never experienced any type of sexual attraction to anyone until I started to fall for them emotionally.

In OP's case, it's more than likely he wants to find a companion/partner. This happens with a lot of people if not everyone at some point. I don't have anything against those who have casual sex, but I wouldn't partake in it myself. It's pretty easy for me to walk through life without the want for a partner or someone to sleep with. An emotional bond is always my first priority. If don't have that, then everything else is pointless.
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Old 05-04-2016, 08:07 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I was fortunate. I never really had to go out. Beers at my apartment and then you can figure out the rest. I tended to keep away from doing activities outside of my apartment with FWBs, because I didn't want to confuse the situation by it "feeling" like a date. Could be because deep down I knew they wanted more from me and deep down I knew I didn't. I can think so clear with this vow of celibacy.
Oh I had FBs like that, but if it was a FWB we would be going out and doing stuff anyway.
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