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Old 05-03-2016, 04:32 PM
 
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When you don't hear from your significant other do you ever feel like you have been forgotten? I don't car ehow busy you are it's a horrible feeling

I remember one day my ex, well she didnt contact me and i basically felt she had forgotten me and that's a crappy feeling.
She said she was busy with finals but i STILL thought she could have me an effort to conaact me that day.

I would have. maybe that shows how much I cared

Too not hear from the person you care about sucks
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Old 05-03-2016, 04:34 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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When you don't hear from your significant other do you ever feel like you have been forgotten? I don't car ehow busy you are it's a horrible feeling

I remember one day my ex, well she didnt contact me and i basically felt she had forgotten me and that's a crappy feeling.
She said she was busy with finals but i STILL thought she could have me an effort to conaact me that day.

I would have. maybe that shows how much I cared

Too not hear from the person you care about sucks
Depends on the time span.


You could have contacted her first ... just sayin ...
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Old 05-03-2016, 04:51 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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When you don't hear from your significant other do you ever feel like you have been forgotten? I don't car ehow busy you are it's a horrible feeling

I remember one day my ex, well she didnt contact me and i basically felt she had forgotten me and that's a crappy feeling.
She said she was busy with finals but i STILL thought she could have me an effort to conaact me that day.

I would have. maybe that shows how much I cared

Too not hear from the person you care about sucks
Forgotten, because your busy EX didn't contact you during the day? You remember THAT day?
If she didn't had any emergency to announce, I don't see it as "forgotten".
Sorry, but all that sorry "forgotten" feelings seems to be very needy, insecure and selfish.

Even a SO doesn't have to be in contact all the times.
It would be different if SO was living apart, or traveling solo. But other than that, if there is nothing super important to tell, there is no need to contact, especially when the other person is busy at work, or studying for finals, or doing their stuff.
How people lived before cell phones and other gadgets? Did they feel neglected and forgotten?
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Old 05-03-2016, 04:57 PM
 
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When you don't hear from your significant other do you ever feel like you have been forgotten? I don't car ehow busy you are it's a horrible feeling

I remember one day my ex, well she didnt contact me and i basically felt she had forgotten me and that's a crappy feeling.
She said she was busy with finals but i STILL thought she could have me an effort to conaact me that day.

I would have. maybe that shows how much I cared

Too not hear from the person you care about sucks
You're overthinking and your statements sound rather needy. If you know someone is busy with finals, why would you feel forgotten? You know exactly what's occupying their mind. You have to accept that life goes on outside of the relationship. Either that or find someone who's comfortable with your attachment style.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:06 PM
 
Location: United States
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Even though you two are no longer together, how much time elapsed before you heard from her? I would imagine there was a tremendous feeling of relief on your part when you took a deep breath and said, "FINAL-LY."
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:11 PM
 
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When you don't hear from your significant other do you ever feel like you have been forgotten? I don't car ehow busy you are it's a horrible feeling

I remember one day my ex, well she didnt contact me and i basically felt she had forgotten me and that's a crappy feeling.
She said she was busy with finals but i STILL thought she could have me an effort to conaact me that day.

I would have. maybe that shows how much I cared

Too not hear from the person you care about sucks
Sounds much too clingy and co dependent to me, no thank you. I would seriously consider professional help for this issue if it continues as it is.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:29 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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OP, I feel that you are relying on others to get your self esteem, instead of yourself. Make yourself happy.
Thankfully, I have a loving husband, but I have struggled as my children have gone on to productive lives, and have limited contact with me. My grandchildren are now high school and college age and they are out there thriving, but not very communicative.
Here is the reality. All our kids love us and when we get together, we have a great time. When we go for months and years without seeing each other I miss them.
What I think of is that I did a good job. Nobody is still on my couch. I raised independent kids, and isn't this what we should all shoot for?
Your ex wife has moved on. You should move on, too. Like I said before, make yourself happy, You are all your have, and if you aren't happy, how can you form a healthy new relationship?
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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No.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:56 PM
 
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My ex (who was my gf at the time) didnt contact me.
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Old 05-03-2016, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Im not surprised shes an ex.
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