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He might very well still want to be friends/associates with you given you were friends before, however you are way too emotionally invested to be only friends with him. So it's best you did what you did and just erase him out your life persay because the longer he hangs around, the more you're going to get in your head that there is a chance for you and him when he made it clear those are not his intentions with you.
Guys rarely like burning bridges which is why they always pop back up at some point and they always target the women they know feel more for them than they do because they can keep the emotional control and still get that ego boost they're wanting.
Back in January I started dating this guy who I really started to like. We are both 30. During that time I worked nights and he worked mornings so we couldn't see each other that much during the week so we mostly saw each other every weekend going out on dates and hanging out. The end of February I brought up the relationship topic. He told me that he wasn't looking for a relationship right now because he has a lot going on and he's trying to get his life together looking for a better job, apartment etc. He told me that if I wanted to stop seeing him that he'll understand and hope that I will find someone who will make me happy because he can't do that right now. I respected his honestly and decided to move on. We only text each other like 3 times throughout the month of March after that just saying hi. The first text he sent he just said hello and have a great week. A week after the second time we spoke in text I suggested we can hang out as friends and he said sure and will let me know (I kind of regret that I said that now). Two weeks after the last time we spoke I sent a text just to say hi and he sent a kissy face and said we're going to hang out soon I promise but I didn't respond after, not even sending a kissy face back. From then I decided to back off. We're still friends on Facebook. He's on Facebook 24/7 putting up statuses and pictures all day long everyday. I probably only liked two throughout the month of April and that's it. I'll update my Facebook once in a blue moon and whenever I do he likes everything. The odd thing too is that he randomly goes back to old statues and pictures that I posted weeks ago and likes them. I don't know if it's to get my attention but I didn't think too much of it because if he really wants to get my attention he could reach out to me by phone. That's the only interaction I get from him now. We haven't spoken to each other in over a month now by phone.
Yesterday I just so happen to see a status that he put that says he's looking for ms right. When I saw that I became upset. I felt like he lied to me about not wanting a relationship because how you tell me that you're trying to get yourself together then a month and a half later you are looking now???
Should I confront him about this or just leave him alone?
Warning: Guys on Fb 24/7 have no life and are basically desperate for attention - so be glad he let you go! 'Ms. Right' for him is probably some girl taking a selfie while playing Candy Crush on the toilet
Back in January I started dating this guy who I really started to like. We are both 30. During that time I worked nights and he worked mornings so we couldn't see each other that much during the week so we mostly saw each other every weekend going out on dates and hanging out. The end of February I brought up the relationship topic. He told me that he wasn't looking for a relationship right now because he has a lot going on and he's trying to get his life together looking for a better job, apartment etc. He told me that if I wanted to stop seeing him that he'll understand and hope that I will find someone who will make me happy because he can't do that right now. I respected his honestly and decided to move on. We only text each other like 3 times throughout the month of March after that just saying hi. The first text he sent he just said hello and have a great week. A week after the second time we spoke in text I suggested we can hang out as friends and he said sure and will let me know (I kind of regret that I said that now). Two weeks after the last time we spoke I sent a text just to say hi and he sent a kissy face and said we're going to hang out soon I promise but I didn't respond after, not even sending a kissy face back. From then I decided to back off. We're still friends on Facebook. He's on Facebook 24/7 putting up statuses and pictures all day long everyday. I probably only liked two throughout the month of April and that's it. I'll update my Facebook once in a blue moon and whenever I do he likes everything. The odd thing too is that he randomly goes back to old statues and pictures that I posted weeks ago and likes them. I don't know if it's to get my attention but I didn't think too much of it because if he really wants to get my attention he could reach out to me by phone. That's the only interaction I get from him now. We haven't spoken to each other in over a month now by phone.
Yesterday I just so happen to see a status that he put that says he's looking for ms right. When I saw that I became upset. I felt like he lied to me about not wanting a relationship because how you tell me that you're trying to get yourself together then a month and a half later you are looking now???
Should I confront him about this or just leave him alone?
How many clues do you need?
He's not interested in you that way. So just leave it while your dignity is intact.
More red flags here:
1) If someone is genuinely interested in you, they will make time for you regardless of how busy they might be.
2) If someone says they're not interested in a relationship, they're not interested in a relationships.
3) If your chief source of communication is by text, then you don't have a relationships. Texting is for basic communication such as 'Pick up the milk on the way home' or 'Hey, running ten minutes late.' It is not for any meaningful communication such as matters of the heart.
4) Facebook isn't real life. He's liking your stuff to be polite.
Warning: Guys on Fb 24/7 have no life and are basically desperate for attention - so be glad he let you go! 'Ms. Right' for him is probably some girl taking a selfie while playing Candy Crush on the toilet
LOL!
What. Have you been peeking in my bathroom window or something?
Warning: Guys on Fb 24/7 have no life and are basically desperate for attention - so be glad he let you go! 'Ms. Right' for him is probably some girl taking a selfie while playing Candy Crush on the toilet
My God he loves FB so much and the attention. It like he's looking for validation and praise all the time for the things he do and say.
you can still find out for certain WITHOUT coming across as the crazy/desperate type......
Something along the lines of " hey I've been thinking a bit recently of the wonderful time we had together and I still can't help but think we would make a great couple, have you had any more thoughts about it? ". Now you can word it to more suit you and what you think would get his attention more.
This to me as a fella would come across as very sane and rational so I personally wouldn't think you were the crazy/desperate type at all LOL and infact you are in a nice and calm manner
Oh yay! You don't seem arrogant and full of yourself, and some poor confused lady asking you a question would not merit a "ARE YOU CRAZY/! YOU are So desperate for asking!" response....
Seriously what's so bad about asking the damn question?! One person in the universe may or may NOT think you're crazy? You never have to see them again if they admit they're just leading you on? At least she would have known.
I'm assuming he has your number OP, since he said you were definitely going to hang out and still texts you. Guess the ball's in his court.
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