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Old 05-05-2016, 08:08 AM
 
Location: rural south west UK
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many men are clueless
that's quite true, so give them a clue huh? we aren't mind readers.
if you want to try something, then SAY SO>
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Old 05-05-2016, 08:19 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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that's quite true, so give them a clue huh? we aren't mind readers.
if you want to try something, then SAY SO>
Without going off topic - men often don't WANT to learn or improve in the bedroom. They had ONE girl (maybe just pretend to) like what they do and therefore ALL women have to like it. Sometimes I think the male ego can't digest that they aren't born as an sexual expert. My experience is that very few men accept corrections or suggestions. It takes a secure and mature guy to be willing to take guidance.
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Old 05-05-2016, 08:37 AM
 
Location: Hyde Park, Los Angeles
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OP, do you love this guy? From what I gather, he sounds like a straight douche bag.

Your bodies and spirits aren't in sync. That's probably why he gives you a slam-bam sex special and you end up dissatisfied.
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Old 05-05-2016, 09:19 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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You're unhappy with your sex life, you fight about money, you live together in your parents' house, and you're not married.
...and the OP is with this person..... WHY?
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Old 05-05-2016, 09:22 AM
 
Location: United States
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...and the OP is with this person..... WHY?
She loves him (as stated in her related thread) and love makes people deaf and blind to many things.
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Old 05-05-2016, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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that's quite true, so give them a clue huh? we aren't mind readers.
if you want to try something, then SAY SO>
She needs to stop faking the O and giving him the impression that he's getting the job done.
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Old 05-05-2016, 09:34 AM
 
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Sit him down and tell him that you would like to work on some new approaches to your sex life. Don't tell him what he is doing wrong. Tell him what you like.
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Old 05-05-2016, 09:36 AM
 
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Without going off topic - men often don't WANT to learn or improve in the bedroom. They had ONE girl (maybe just pretend to) like what they do and therefore ALL women have to like it. Sometimes I think the male ego can't digest that they aren't born as an sexual expert. My experience is that very few men accept corrections or suggestions. It takes a secure and mature guy to be willing to take guidance.
I think the majority of men would like nothing better than to please their women in this realm. If most of the men you are coming across act like they don't want to learn, then either your guy picker is broken and you are picking selfish, clueless jerks or you are confrontational and demeaning in your approach to talking about what you like.
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Old 05-05-2016, 09:42 AM
 
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She needs to stop faking the O and giving him the impression that he's getting the job done.
This ^

Never fake enjoying sex. It messes up the guy's feedback loop. He needs to know when he sucks so he can improve.
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Old 05-05-2016, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Its sad if you're sexually depriving yourself by faking an orgasm.
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