What if you are unahppy in the bedroom? (men, mature, relations)
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I tried to be polite by saying "lets try something new" but he was not up for it. It's the same position, and usually I fake the orgasm....
Does this guy have any positive qualities at all? An untidy spendthrift who is not good in bed. Must be a pretty face or something. In any case you have had a chance to examine the goods in detail and it's time to return them for an exchange or refund.
The next time he fancies it just say you are not in the mood and the usual " I've got a headache " ...... Keep saying it for a few times/days and he should get the message
To be honest I can't believe he hasn't noticed you are not happy or picked up that he's not doing the business
How could he notice she's not happy when she pretends to be having orgasms? She's sending him messages *ahem* "loud and clear" that she's very happy with what he's doing or not doing. Basically, she's lying to him.
OP, the whole relationship isn't working. He's not the guy for you. There's no way to fix this and the other problem. Apparently he can afford his own place, so you can tell him to leave. Talk to your parents and have them back you up, if necessary. Prolonging this will only be wasting his time and yours. Best to rip the Band-Aid right off.
I tried to be polite by saying "lets try something new" but he was not up for it. It's the same position, and usually I fake the orgasm....
Odd this guy isn't up to try new things. It is usually every guys dream to have a freaky chick who wants to experiment. Only thing i can think of is maybe you intimidate him.
Personally i ask a new partner what she likes and even go as far as asking how i am doing and if i am getting all the right spots. I had a much younger woman tell me she used to have a bf she tried to tell what she needed and he wouldn't listen...told her lay back and enjoy, he knew what he was doing. She didn't enjoy, so like OP she got tired of bad sex and left.
Lesson here is, never be afraid to ask if you are doing a good job or not and be sure to take your partners advice. Great sex is important for a great relationship.....at least with me.
First, money problems and now we have transitioned to the bedroom.
Usually men are quite interested in variety and experimentation (to a degree, of course). Faking the orgasm is your business, but you should take on a more assertive role in bed as opposed to mentioning that something different would be a nice change of pace.
As they say in the Nike commercials, "Just do it."
Nahhhh...men SAY they want variety in bed...they really want a variety of women. Once they find something they like to do in bed it's pretty routine...'cuz in their minds, it works, so what's not to like. Or at least it works for THEM. And unfortunately he THINKS it works for you since you're always faking.
Some guys are very insecure about trying new stuff...especially if it's at the woman's suggestion. So yeah, it's a tough issue many guys just can't handle. It may not be fun, but you have to tell a guy EXACTLY what you want him to do because he'll never figure it out with hints - it's not at all romantic but you can't have everything.
From everything else you have said about him, it only makes sense you are not sexually attracted to him.
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What they don't teach you in public school sex-ed classes is that it starts in the brain first. If you think he's a slouch in other things, you are not going to find him attractive for anything else.
Without going off topic - men often don't WANT to learn or improve in the bedroom. They had ONE girl (maybe just pretend to) like what they do and therefore ALL women have to like it. Sometimes I think the male ego can't digest that they aren't born as an sexual expert. My experience is that very few men accept corrections or suggestions. It takes a secure and mature guy to be willing to take guidance.
That's true. However, she is faking her orgasms and has not been direct about what she wants. He's not a mind reader.
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