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So I have been talking to this girl for about two months now, she seems really into me but her feelings for me seem almost bipolar.
One moment we'll be talking and/or texting and I say something long and sweet and she'll reply with the same and it'll make me feel great. But, another time I will pour my feelings out and she replies with a couple word reply seemingly like she doesn't care.
She just seems a little immature sometimes and what worries me sometimes is that she talks to a lot of other guys. I try not to worry even if she says they're just friends but I don't know her well/long enough to trust her with this.
We aren't official yet but the last time I went out to see her I held her for hours, not sure whether or not to kiss yet but after I went home she told me she wanted me to kiss her, I felt kind of like a for missing the opportunity but there's always next time right?
Tl;dr
The main problems I see are these:
1. Having just graduated highschool, I think her immaturity might become a problem
2. Does she purposely ignore me for hours to try to play hard to get?
3. She said she gets scared when she's falling for someone probably because of a terrible past relationship, I don't know how to combat this
4. Her parents are really strict and overbearing, how do I make them comfortable with me and her?
5. We haven't talked for a day (we often talk each day) because she never replied, sometimes I feel like not much of a priority for her. Could she be talking to multiple guys like she does with me and just forgets about me? Maybe I'm just paranoid.
Thanks for the help fellows, it's much appreciated. My dating game is fairly inexperienced.
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1. Know the laws of dating in your area. Know what is considered 'underage'.
2. If you have not met her, see if she is open to a face-to-face meet up.
You need to see her to even begin to come close to thinking you know her. You could be talking/texting with a 70 year old man for all you know, if you haven't met her. Stranger things have happened.
You cant judge anything about her from texting.
3. If 17 is underage where you both live, know that the most you can hope to achieve is a kiss without leaving yourself open to a relationship that could put you at odds with the law. I remember when I was 16 and 17 I had a key chain that said 'Jail Bait'.
If dating and relationships can be had by texting, I predict arranged marriages seeing a revival in mainstream culture, lol.
I wonder if we'll ever see a moment in our lifetimes when people in general will realize that texting is not, I repeat, NOT, a relationship.
Over 90 percent or relationship issues and questions and concerns could easily be eliminated if people stopped texting each other when it comes to 'relationships.' No different in the OP's situation.
So I have been talking to this girl for about two months now, she seems really into me but her feelings for me seem almost bipolar.
One moment we'll be talking and/or texting and I say something long and sweet and she'll reply with the same and it'll make me feel great. But, another time I will pour my feelings out and she replies with a couple word reply seemingly like she doesn't care.
She just seems a little immature sometimes and what worries me sometimes is that she talks to a lot of other guys. I try not to worry even if she says they're just friends but I don't know her well/long enough to trust her with this.
We aren't official yet but the last time I went out to see her I held her for hours, not sure whether or not to kiss yet but after I went home she told me she wanted me to kiss her, I felt kind of like a for missing the opportunity but there's always next time right?
Tl;dr
The main problems I see are these:
1. Having just graduated highschool, I think her immaturity might become a problem
2. Does she purposely ignore me for hours to try to play hard to get?
3. She said she gets scared when she's falling for someone probably because of a terrible past relationship, I don't know how to combat this
4. Her parents are really strict and overbearing, how do I make them comfortable with me and her?
5. We haven't talked for a day (we often talk each day) because she never replied, sometimes I feel like not much of a priority for her. Could she be talking to multiple guys like she does with me and just forgets about me? Maybe I'm just paranoid.
Thanks for the help fellows, it's much appreciated. My dating game is fairly inexperienced.
As to the bolded, my guess is that she's not all that comfortable with you sharing your emotions. She may have a problem with emotional intimacy.
As to the underlined, that underscores the above comment, and spells B-A-G-G-A-G-E. You can't combat it; she needs to overcome that on her own. Consider looking for someone without these hangups. There are plenty out there.
I wonder if we'll ever see a moment in our lifetimes when people in general will realize that texting is not, I repeat, NOT, a relationship.
Over 90 percent or relationship issues and questions and concerns could easily be eliminated if people stopped texting each other when it comes to 'relationships.' No different in the OP's situation.
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