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I don't see how your current relationship survives this. I don't think that makes you terrible. Probably makes you young and maybe a bit inexperienced with relationships. If you consider yourself to be in a committed relationship now, you might want to look up commitment and then decide if that's something you can really do. It's perfectly normal for people to be attracted to others, but being committed means you don't do any of the dozens of things you've done, the glances and the flirtations and the time alone and the.... to get to the place your in now. It means you consciously guard against sliding toward someone else.
I don't see this new guy being more than a fling, though. Strong chemistry blinds people to issues that relate to longer term compatibility. Then there's the ruining of his friendship with your current soon to be ex, which will always be there in your head when you're doing new guy. And in new guys head.
Your best bet is to start over with a different guy altogether. Gives you a chance to do gf the right way, and hot guy a chance to do friendship the right way.
THIS! That's SOME FRIEND! Your boyfriend should kick him to the curb immediately! I would also advise you split up with your boyfriend as he's obviously not the one for you if you are so obsessed about another guy. You aren't married and have no kids so do what you have to do here.
Additionally, the new guy you are obsessing about is not of high-quality character if he's hitting on his friend's girlfriend. He might be good for some casual sex but I wouldn't entertain thoughts of him being good BF material either.
I know I should break up with my boyfriend, I just am gonna feel like crap breaking his heart to sleep with his best friend. Its just gotten to the point where I want him so bad. I've been fighting it for a month, thinking should i or shouldn't I just sleep with him to see if it stops me thinking about him, or if it just makes me realize I just want his friend more. I like both but its not fair to him. I am aware its probably just casual, but im just gonna get with him and see where it goes I think. It's not like we are married and have kids.
I know I should break up with my boyfriend, I just am gonna feel like crap breaking his heart to sleep with his best friend. Its just gotten to the point where I want him so bad. I've been fighting it for a month, thinking should i or shouldn't I just sleep with him to see if it stops me thinking about him, or if it just makes me realize I just want his friend more. I like both but its not fair to him. I am aware its probably just casual, but im just gonna get with him and see where it goes I think. It's not like we are married and have kids.
Just go for it. You're young. This is the time you should be experiencing as much as you can. I made the mistake of being in a relationship in my early 20's. I never should have. Go out there and have fun. Don't be tied down so soon, especially at this age. Life is too short for that and your youth is even shorter.
I know I should break up with my boyfriend, I just am gonna feel like crap breaking his heart to sleep with his best friend. Its just gotten to the point where I want him so bad. I've been fighting it for a month, thinking should i or shouldn't I just sleep with him to see if it stops me thinking about him, or if it just makes me realize I just want his friend more. I like both but its not fair to him. I am aware its probably just casual, but im just gonna get with him and see where it goes I think. It's not like we are married and have kids.
It would hurt him just as much knowing you think of other men while sleeping with him.
Take it as a learning experience, you're young and still figuring a lot of dynamics out.
In 5 years time you will look back and laugh at yourself
As long as she doesn't act on it... Same same.
It's neither specific or defined if it's all in her head and stays there.
The head dictates the heart.
Actions are only one part of the equation.
Would you like to be with someone who likes you but never thinks of you when they lay down with you?
Would you like to be committed to someone who has to have the thoughts of others just to feel engaged or engage in their sexuality with you?
There would be no reason for the realtionship to exist if your mind was always elsewhere with others.
The "it's not poop if I tell myself it's a brownie" ideology doesn't work here.
Last edited by rego00123; 05-13-2016 at 04:36 PM..
As long as she doesn't act on it... Same same.
It's neither specific or defined if it's all in her head and stays there.
I agree with you, but wouldn't you be more squicky if someone real and accessible was your lovers...whatever this guy is?
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