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I personally prefer to not take BC but in that relationship, he had a child already that he was barely able to afford and he wouldn't do anything with me unless I was on it so I got on it.
I personally prefer to not take BC but in that relationship, he had a child already that he was barely able to afford and he wouldn't do anything with me unless I was on it so I got on it.
Then you're not averse to taking birth control if there's a good reason to take it.
For you, there are good reasons to take it.
A few:
1. You're not married to the guy.
2. He has not agreed with you that the two of you will try for a child. No, he hasn't even agreed that "if it happens, it happens." Do this test. Ask him if he agrees that if pregnancy happens, it happens. My guess is he leaves smoke where his footprints were two seconds earlier.
3. You don't know what diseases he's carrying.
4. You have no way of knowing he's exclusive with you. None. Indeed, in the prospective example you give - the pot-dealing driver - you can pretty much assume you two AREN'T exclusive. You went on a three-way date, for heaven's sake.
5. You are in no way ready for a baby.
6. Birth control is cheap and uncomplicated. In some locales and clinics, it's free, actually.
7. You are showing self-respect by demanding that your person, and your future, be protected.
So use the birth control.
But that's if you decide that even though emotionally you're obviously far from ready, you do sleep with someone anyway. I really feel you should get a ton more therapy first to straighten things out. However, I myself am not a therapist. So ask yours.
I'm not crazy about sex.. I admit I haven't done it in a while because I would ideally like to be in a relationship but in all honesty I usually only have sex because the guy wants to. I think i am interested now because I have a new friend who literally sleeps with everyone all the time and I am like "gosh I want to do that!"
Sorry...I should have said, based on this last sentence, "adventurous".
I think all birth control messes up your body and can make you infertile and I don't want that. I will just use condoms an let the guy decide
Have you ever learned about STDs? Many of them can make you infertile too. Sex with a random guy with no protection is just asking to get some nasty STD.
I'm not crazy about sex.. I admit I haven't done it in a while because I would ideally like to be in a relationship but in all honesty I usually only have sex because the guy wants to. I think i am interested now because I have a new friend who literally sleeps with everyone all the time and I am like "gosh I want to do that!"
So, you want a baby and a husband because all of your friends are getting married and having kids, you want to hook up with everyone all the time because another friend does, would you jump off of a bridge if all your friends were?
Try figuring out what it is that YOU really want, because you seem to be only following what others are doing.
Have you ever learned about STDs? Many of them can make you infertile too. Sex with a random guy with no protection is just asking to get some nasty STD.
I know. I'm not slutty, it's not like I am having sex all the time with everyone.
I know. I'm not slutty, it's not like I am having sex all the time with everyone.
You don't have to have sex all the time and with everyone to get an STD which, yes, depending upon the specific STD, could impact your fertility.
Unwrapped sex with just ONE guy who deals pot and gives girls free rides in exchange for 3-way dates and a hope for a li'l in the near future (but who would make a REALLY cute dad!) could do the trick.
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