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This thread reminded me of a recent convo with a friend. She had a really awkward situation where a long time friend tried to make a move. (We were all quite tight back in college. I lost touch with him a bit, but she keeps me up to date. )
Her: smart, bubbly, extroverted, likes to go museums, likes to host parties, loves to go to cocktail parties, enjoys meeting new people and connecting with people. Likes to live in cities and urban life.
Him: smart, quiet, reserved, introspective, hates parties and large social gatherings. Life plan is to do charity work in a rural place and retire.
So basically, she had a whole bucket of reasons to not be interested in him. There were two primary ones: religion (she learned the hard way that she shouldn't date outside of her religion), and disinterest in parties.
She goes out a few times a week to art galleries, museums, parties etc. She wants a partner in crime at the party or someone who is willing to tough it out and can manage the small talk required in cocktail parties. He hates those events and back when we all hung out would leave the party, hide off in the corner and find his close friends for a post event meal.
So for a woman like her, the quiet non-social butterfly is a bad fit. Now another one of my friends hates parties with people she doesn't know. She only needs one social event a month to get her fill. She doesn't like to live in the city. As you can see, she is a lot more compatible with him than my friend.
This is long winded way to say, it depends on the woman.
He doesn't know the quiet one. I now have homework...find a quiet one! Though I am now wondering how long he has been harboring this secret crush. We have known each other 15+ years! He just made the move on the friend earlier this year. He is a shy one. It takes months and months for him to profess his interest. He dated one girl for a while that he liked for a 9 months.*
*We all live far apart: think west coast, east coast and flyover land.
Look I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am pretty damn cute, objectively. I'd say I'm 7/10. I'm not going to turn heads, but I'd definitely make a girl uneasy if I had my shirt off. I have money, so it's not that. I drive a Maserati and live in an upscale neighborhood in orange county. I'm not a billionaire, but I get by. The only thing I don't have is social skills (crippling social anxiety) and I'm passive. Women want an aggressor with social skills. Looks and money seem completely worthless if you're shy. It's so unfair. I see ugly poor men with girls because they have social skills. It seems like no amount of positive qualities can overcome being a shy male. I'm 22 and am graduating college dateless. I feel like I'm less than nothing because of my failure with the opposite sex.
In regards to this post as a woman I am not impressed with the description of yourself you provided.
You present yourself as self centered, arrogant, materialistic and not interested in a real relationship.
This of course is only my opinion from the words you wrote.
Wasn't you jobless and struggling to get a job in your last thread, OP? That you didn't want to work if you couldn't get a girlfriend? And now, you're roll'n in a Maserati, living in an affluent suburb and have a ripped body?
Do I have the right guy?
I never said I was struggling to get a job. I said I could never work a job that wasn't easy. I also said I have money and don't need one. The only reason I have worked in the past was because I thought it would help me get girls. It didn't, so why work?
How do I have money?? The same way all rich kids do, inheritance. Completely useless when you can't get girls though since money doesn't create happiness, love does.
In regards to this post as a woman I am not impressed with the description of yourself you provided.
You present yourself as self centered, arrogant, materialistic and not interested in a real relationship.
This of course is only my opinion from the words you wrote.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I just feel like I have ever characteristic a girl would want in a guy except for social skills and a dominant personality, so I'm alone. It sucks so bad. I know I would make a great bf if a girl could look past my two flaws. I'd make her happy as long as she was willing to wear the pants in the relationship.
Look I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am pretty damn cute, objectively. I'd say I'm 7/10. I'm not going to turn heads, but I'd definitely make a girl uneasy if I had my shirt off. I have money, so it's not that. I drive a Maserati and live in an upscale neighborhood in orange county. I'm not a billionaire, but I get by. The only thing I don't have is social skills (crippling social anxiety) and I'm passive. Women want an aggressor with social skills. Looks and money seem completely worthless if you're shy. It's so unfair. I see ugly poor men with girls because they have social skills. It seems like no amount of positive qualities can overcome being a shy male. I'm 22 and am graduating college dateless. I feel like I'm less than nothing because of my failure with the opposite sex.
Look I'm no Brad Pitt, but I am pretty damn cute, objectively. I'd say I'm 7/10. I'm not going to turn heads, but I'd definitely make a girl uneasy if I had my shirt off. I have money, so it's not that. I drive a Maserati and live in an upscale neighborhood in orange county. I'm not a billionaire, but I get by. The only thing I don't have is social skills (crippling social anxiety) and I'm passive. Women want an aggressor with social skills. Looks and money seem completely worthless if you're shy. It's so unfair. I see ugly poor men with girls because they have social skills. It seems like no amount of positive qualities can overcome being a shy male. I'm 22 and am graduating college dateless. I feel like I'm less than nothing because of my failure with the opposite sex.
So girls are just supposed to stand around with you and your car taking selfies all day long since you can't talk to them or interact in any way? Does that sound like something YOU'D like to do with someone? Or do you want a relationship where you have conversation and do stuff together? Why is that an unfair expectation?
OP please recognize that "girls" are people, each with their own tastes, personalities, likes, dislikes. If you are looking for a plug and play device, I hear there are very good blow up dolls.
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