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So a man is a dumb idiot because a wife decides he should pay for all expenses on HER car? It's her car and her responsibility. That shouldn't require a conversation.
This is assuming the man has his own car that he will naturally pay the expenses for.
Yes, they both have their own crs. He fixes both but when there's an issue that he can't fix and it needs to go to the shop she expects him to pay for her repairs. He doesn't ask her to pay for his. It's her car. She went to the dealership and picked it out. She made the monthly payments on it but when it needs work she loos to the guy like he's just suppose to open his wallet and pay for it. No, not every couple has a shared bank account. I know a number of couples who kept separate accts after they got married. They have a combined one for household bills but they do not look at each one's cars as a joint venture. Her name is on her title and his is on his title. Just because for years it's always been understood that once you get married you combine everything into one account is not the case anymore. As we all know things change. Guys and girls can now decide which bathroom they want to use depending on which sex they identify that day. Ladies, don't be surprised if you walk out of the stall and there's a guy washing his hands at the sink. Why? Because we live in a society that wants to make everything fair and across board for everyone.
What do you do when your daughter comes home complaining that they are letting the football team use their locker rooms and showers because they don't want to offend any particular group? Sorry for the sidetrack.
No, what works in your marriage may not work for everyone else's marriage. Separate accounts works for them. He said that because she has a shopping bug and he refuses to put his entire paycheck into one acct for her to go spend it at the mall.
Maybe you should stop going out as the third wheel with this couple (which does annoy them, even if they say it doesn't) and go to dinner with your own wife? I'm sure your wife is nothing like your friend's, you had the sense to partner with a woman who knows her place and doesn't get all uppity like other 'women's'. Right?
This is not a third wheel situation. I go with a date. A couple's night out.
Wait. But you said that before they were married she paid for the costs of repairs, and he volunteered his labor. How does this translate into getting other guys to "pay for her stuff"?
You are really twisting things to fit your agenda aren't you?
Please re-read the OP. I said that before they got married and needed her car fixed she would ask him to do it but all he said was if you buy the part he'd gladly put it on. Now that they're married she just expects him to pay for all repairs, those he can do and those he can't which require a trip to the repair shop. She drives the car but passes it of to him once it needs fixing.
Yes, they both have their own crs. He fixes both but when there's an issue that he can't fix and it needs to go to the shop she expects him to pay for her repairs. He doesn't ask her to pay for his. It's her car. She went to the dealership and picked it out. She made the monthly payments on it but when it needs work she loos to the guy like he's just suppose to open his wallet and pay for it. No, not every couple has a shared bank account. I know a number of couples who kept separate accts after they got married. They have a combined one for household bills but they do not look at each one's cars as a joint venture. Her name is on her title and his is on his title. Just because for years it's always been understood that once you get married you combine everything into one account is not the case anymore. As we all know things change.
If only there were some method whereby he could convey to her that he feels her expectations that he will pay for her car repairs is unfair. Wait, I know! He could tell her.
Please re-read the OP. I said that before they got married and needed her car fixed she would ask him to do it but all he said was if you buy the part he'd gladly put it on. Now that they're married she just expects him to pay for all repairs, those he can do and those he can't which require a trip to the repair shop. She drives the car but passes it of to him once it needs fixing.
Who really cares? This isn't your relationship so why are you so invested?
Right, but that's not HIS fault. It's the women!!!
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Please re-read the OP. I said that before they got married and needed her car fixed she would ask him to do it but all he said was if you buy the part he'd gladly put it on. Now that they're married she just expects him to pay for all repairs, those he can do and those he can't which require a trip to the repair shop. She drives the car but passes it of to him once it needs fixing.
Perhaps you should remove yourself from worrying about the details of their marriage.
Worry about your own life.
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