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Back in college when I was a kid, there was a girl in the dorms who was constantly flirting with me, enough so that it wasn't in my imagination. A few friends pointed it out, too.
One evening I was in her dorm room and thought I was sensing one of those electrical moments. As I leaned in she said "Don't."
"Why not?" I asked, pausing but not withdrawing, figuring it was mere hesitation on her part.
But she put her hand against my chest and pushed me back -- gently, but less gently than I might have expected. "Because I don't really find you attractive," she told me.
I was shocked, genuinely confused. "You flirt with me all the time," I said. "That's not just my imagination."
"That's just playing around. I didn't really mean it." That's exactly what she said to me.
Normal, schmormal. People are all irregular verbs and life is a gamble. You go for it, or you don't. You win, you lose, you lose out, maybe you get slapped down. Total crapshoot.
Back in college when I was a kid, there was a girl in the dorms who was constantly flirting with me, enough so that it wasn't in my imagination. A few friends pointed it out, too.
One evening I was in her dorm room and thought I was sensing one of those electrical moments. As I leaned in she said "Don't."
"Why not?" I asked, pausing but not withdrawing, figuring it was mere hesitation on her part.
But she put her hand against my chest and pushed me back -- gently, but less gently than I might have expected. "Because I don't really find you attractive," she told me.
I was shocked, genuinely confused. "You flirt with me all the time," I said. "That's not just my imagination."
"That's just playing around. I didn't really mean it." That's exactly what she said to me.
Normal, schmormal. People are all irregular verbs and life is a gamble. You go for it, or you don't. You win, you lose, you lose out, maybe you get slapped down. Total crapshoot.
Sorry mate but I won't find a funnier post for the rest of the week now after that classic
Back in college when I was a kid, there was a girl in the dorms who was constantly flirting with me, enough so that it wasn't in my imagination. A few friends pointed it out, too.
One evening I was in her dorm room and thought I was sensing one of those electrical moments. As I leaned in she said "Don't."
"Why not?" I asked, pausing but not withdrawing, figuring it was mere hesitation on her part.
But she put her hand against my chest and pushed me back -- gently, but less gently than I might have expected. "Because I don't really find you attractive," she told me.
I was shocked, genuinely confused. "You flirt with me all the time," I said. "That's not just my imagination."
"That's just playing around. I didn't really mean it." That's exactly what she said to me.
Normal, schmormal. People are all irregular verbs and life is a gamble. You go for it, or you don't. You win, you lose, you lose out, maybe you get slapped down. Total crapshoot.
Wow, that's pretty bad. What's the point, if she didn't mean it? WTF?! Just for sport, or something?
Gawd, no wonder guys are so confused and frustrated!
Wow, that's pretty bad. What's the point, if she didn't mean it? WTF?! Just for sport, or something?
Gawd, no wonder guys are so confused and frustrated!
Yeah I think that's what left Poor urban a bit
It's like the term " p teaser " ( p a 5 letter word rhyming with brick ) that we have here in the UK.... ^^^^ kind of moment is probably where it was derived from....
Wow, that's pretty bad. What's the point, if she didn't mean it? WTF?! Just for sport, or something?
Gawd, no wonder guys are so confused and frustrated!
Some people flirt for the fun of it they don't actually like the person at all. Kind of a crappy thing to do tbh.
Wow, that's pretty bad. What's the point, if she didn't mean it? WTF?! Just for sport, or something?
Gawd, no wonder guys are so confused and frustrated!
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Originally Posted by 49ersfan27
Some people flirt for the fun of it they don't actually like the person at all. Kind of a crappy thing to do tbh.
Yes, that's weird. I do not understand the point of "fake flirting" and seems that anyone doing so is odd. It seems that most people would never bother doing this since reactions to others are automatic, being genuine and not premeditated.
Wow, that's pretty bad. What's the point, if she didn't mean it? WTF?! Just for sport, or something?
Gawd, no wonder guys are so confused and frustrated!
Getting the attention or reactions you desire from people isn't always becuase you "want" where it can lead you.
Some people just love the high or feeling they get from interactions they have (or get) with others. Your typical self proclaimed "natural flirts" exhibit this behavior.
Some people just don't really think about consequence until judgement is already upon them.
Last edited by rego00123; 07-01-2016 at 01:41 AM..
Getting the attention or reactions you desire from people isn't always becuase you "want" where it can lead you.
Some people just love the high or feeling they get from interactions they have (or get) with others. Your typical self proclaimed "natural flirts" exhibit this behavior.
Some people just don't really think about consequence until judgement is already upon them.
^^^^^
This.
Fact is, way back then it really confused me. I already had a difficult enough time reading people. Obviously there were myriad factors at play.
For example, in The Kite Runner Khaled Hosseini makes an observation which may appear literary on the surface but actually describes a lot of people:
"And that's the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too."
In another thread in another time, someone stated from their point of observation [I paraphrase, of course] that the people who felt most strongly about the act of lying were, themselves, unskilled socially. Being unskilled enough that they had difficulty readily seeing the lies of others, they resented always getting caught in the webs of lies they encountered. The assertion seemed to be that people should wise up or learn to deal with the consequences.
A pro this way, a con that way. After all, one must be equal to one's times, and that LIFE happens is a fact. On the other hand a perfectly reasonable, extremely intelligent person may not lie precisely because in their purview it only stands to reason that if we all told the truth and cooperated the world would be a magnificent place indeed. Lying should be something they learn to detect, as a survival trait; but it's also distinctly against their nature to think in terms of lying.
In the same way a bully may possess all the intellectual agility of a soap dish but be well-versed in the art of the insult, having memorized a wealth of comebacks, so a child truly going places in the academic world may be entirely unequipped for such an exchange.
rego00123 has the right of it in this instance.
I wasn't scarred for life, just confused. But I learned a valuable lesson from the incident, which is that people may SAY anything. They may say they're really into you, they may say you're the most marvelous person they've ever encountered. NONE of it means they'll stick around if things get dicey or difficult.
Hell, they could even say we're not people at all, but rather highly evolved forms of bicycle. See? They could say pretty much anything.
It's like the term " p teaser " ( p a 5 letter word rhyming with brick ) that we have here in the UK.... ^^^^ kind of moment is probably where it was derived from....
There needs to be a commensurate term for the guys who do this, something besides... "you don't know who your father is."
OK I've only skimmed a few pages but I have a couple of observations. One is that generally speaking women are unwilling to approach men either because of fear or because they don't feel they should have to, and women also have contempt for men who are not willing to approach them. The other observation is that this thread is the perfect illustration of why men who score a lot of women are considered studs, while women who score a lot of men are considered easy(to put it nicely).
Last edited by Fifty Seven; 07-01-2016 at 03:22 PM..
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) that we have here in the UK.... ^^^^ kind of moment is probably where it was derived from....
