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It's impossible to be the thought police. Your SO could be thinking of someone else during sex with you too.
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Actually we had a very civil talk about it. He wasn't defensive and he told me why, were working through it and I feel out relationship is the best it's ever been. We both realized we wouldn't want to lose each other and I'm excited for our new trusting relationship.
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OP came to this conclusion days ago. Funny how the other posters are still arguing about porn
I never noticed that. I pretty much knew if he was looking at porn, I was gonna get it! In fact, I don't think there were many (if any) times that he looked at porn and I didn't get it.
Do you also view a woman reading a sexy book as a red flag? Most women prefer that form of external stimulation over looking at pictures.
Men = visual. Women = cerebral. Same stuff, different media.
Reading a romance novel and watching a couple have sex are not the same thing imo. I personally do not care to see what other people do behind closed doors, that's private.
Reading a romance novel and watching a couple have sex are not the same thing imo. I personally do not care to see what other people do behind closed doors, that's private.
Long time ago, there was a thread in which I made a claim that pornographic material was mostly consumed by men. A whole bunch of women in this forum corrected me indicating that pornographic material also includes erotic novels.
I think you will have a difficult time distinguishing watching and reading about sex in terms of pornographic consumption. The end goal is the same. It simply caters to the differences between visual and "mental" stimulation.
I would close the door and let her get her self pleasure. It's not my mind or body to impose on to what I feel is right or wrong for her.
Why would I be upset over something as trivial as being turned on by a good looking dude she knows literally zero about or has any personal attachment towards?
It's her fantasy to do with what she wants, I have zero issues with having fantasies or giving herself personal pleasure.
There is literally no negatives to letting my wife be herself and allowing her mind to go wild if that's what does it for her as long as she is capable of understanding fantasy from reality
Well,lets say she had a one night stand with a guy she was turned on by;does that mean it is not cheating because they had no emotional attachment and she knows 0 about him?
Why do so many people believe that masturbating to someone else is not cheating,or at the very least would not hurt the other partner?
Also,if your wife has to look at porn,then you aint doing your job,correct?
Why do you keep repeating yourself over and over without actually engaging in what other people have to say? You make statements but they are just blanket statements without much explaination... simply statements based on your views but failed to understand people's views are different.
If you think that majority of the divorces are based on porn? How about read the statistics and research the topic.
How will it be "hurting" the other partner if the other partner doesn't have a problem with it? I read and watch movies all the time.. some of it fictional. Does it mean that I want my life to be a reflection of what I see in the movies or read in books?
Why do so many people believe that masturbating to someone else is not cheating,or at the very least would not hurt the other partner?
Also,if your wife has to look at porn,then you aint doing your job,correct?
Actually, divorce rates have been on a steadily decline for quite some time now
[url]https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/06/23/144-years-of-marriage-and-divorce-in-the-united-states-in-one-chart/[/url]
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