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I think the fact that she tested positive renders moot whatever might have prevented her contracting this STD. The issue is the BFs weakass response. We don't have the full context, but I can't imagine much that would justify "get over it" as a response.
I'm clear on that. She has one strain of HPV. There are many strains of HPV. The vaccine covers more than just one strain so it is still a good idea to get it.
Being offended is a normal state for a person in today's society, but if you want to do something about it - take your boyfriend's advice.
Oh yea. The "tough guy" approach is so ...effective..to a woman going through medical stress. There are worse things the OP could have contracted, but its still serious enough for concern, and she can't just "get over it".
My lady has medical issues, and hasn't gotten any good news from the doctors in quite a while. Such situations require support and empathy, not an attitude like a football coach. The whole "shake it off you ain't hurt" thing is not an attitude for a guy to hand to his lady when the doctor hands out a diagnoses like this.
Its upsetting, to say the least, and women often have quite different reactions to such things than men. My gal has cried buckets after doctor visits. Doctors can often not be much comfort, as they are conditioned to just shoot from the hip, and can come off quite cold. So, our ladies need to turn to their men. Mine does, and I'm going to be there for her. She knows she can count on me for comfort and a sympathetic ear.
We've been through a lot together. I have my own medical issues, and I count on her for support as well. For us, that's where we get the strength to keep fighting. I think the OPs "man" would do well to consider what true strength is, and be a bit, just a bit, more supportive in helping her find the resolve to stay in the fight.
That, is how I see it.....
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There is currently no medical treatment for persistent HPV infections that are not associated with abnormal cell changes. However, the genital warts, benign respiratory tract tumors, precancerous changes at the cervix, and cancers resulting from HPV infections can be treated.
He's insensitive, yes, and I wouldn't put up with it in a loving relationship.
Also, stop beating yourself up. There is nothing much you can do to protect yourself from HPV except vaccine. Condoms are not fully effective as it is passed from skin to skin.
Wait, now I am wondering if he was responding to your physical condition, or your freak out over it? Please clarify. Many guys don't do well with female freak outs. They feel helpless because they can't fix it, and so their instinct is to minimize the problem and make it disappear.
I did not freak out at him at all, I was simply expressing my concern and feelings about my health status.
I'd like to thank everyone for their replies. I haven't spoke much to him today, he said he would call me after work and I have a lot of things to say to him mainly addressing his insensitivity and how I don't deserve to be with a partner that reacts this way to my feelings. I truly hope his reaction stemmed from ignorance and that he googled HPV and did some research. Inadvertently, this does affect him and his future partners as he is now a carrier. Since he is 27, he's technically too old to get the vaccine as the age cut off is 26 according to my doctor. I'll post any updates if I have any.
Being offended is a normal state for a person in today's society, but if you want to do something about it - take your boyfriend's advice.
Best advice in the thread.
Seriously, you can whine and complain and "be offended" but where's that gonna get you? So now you know you have it. Learn about it and how you contracted it so you can deal with it now and prevent it in the future.
The boyfriend may not be as sensitive to your needs as you want him to be but that doesn't mean he does not care. So, I agree with him. Get over it and figure out life.
Ok, that's ridiculous, his insurance covers it. I know mine does as well. Our crappy healthcare system is really putting people at risk as well. As far as the anti vacciners... well, they're also a public health risk.
I actually, ignorantly, didn't know boys got the vaccine, since it is mainly a threat to female health. I asked my brother, why did you have them vaccinated? And he said matter of factly, because they'll be having sex with women and he doesn't want them to be vectors. Duh, me.
I was actually surprised/chagrined that my older son's pediatrician didn't mention the vaccine until I specifically asked for it. He said a lot of parents are still hesitant, and some actually take offense to the idea of their child needing a vaccine for an STD . Whatevs, in all likelihood I'm not going to know about his engaging in some HPV-friendly activities until after the fact, so it makes the most sense to have him protected before that happens, as it can cause cancer in males, too.
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The "tough guy" approach is so ...effective..to a woman going through medical stress. There are worse things the OP could have contracted, but its still serious enough for concern, and she can't just "get over it". 
. Whatevs, in all likelihood I'm not going to know about his engaging in some HPV-friendly activities until after the fact, so it makes the most sense to have him protected before that happens, as it can cause cancer in males, too.
