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My intention is to give people a chance, no matter college degree or not. Thus, I agreed to date him, and see if magic happens. I very much appreciate him, and know that what he has is hard to find, yet I never got that feeling of being head over heels in love. I think the problem with him not having gone to college is that his experiences and world view are more limited than mine, although he is curious when I try to introduce him to new ideas. I travelled more than him; met more people; ate weird foods, and have overall more liberal ideas. And I wonder if the reason for him being more of a local guy is because he never went to college, and was not exposed to a larger world.
What fascinates me about him is his loyalty, his commitment, his goodness to people and animals, his ability to be a real man, a protector and a provider. Yet, (I will be a snob and say it anyway), I feel that there isn't a lot he can teach me about the world. He can provide a lot of stability and reliability, but lacks the WOW factor. I would ideally like to feel both, with the same person. Am I doomed to be single forever because what I want is unrealistic?
PS: we've been dating for six months now. I would like to fall in love with him, because he seems like a great long term partner, but I can't make myself fall in love with him.
Yes.
Your expectations are really high.
I don't know what to say except break up with him and work on yourself.
It reads like you're keeping him around for your benefit, even though you don't see a future with him. That's by definition using somebody. It's great that you like him a whole lot and appreciate him. It's unfair to carry on a pseudo-romantic relationship with somebody with whom you don't see a future, just because they're nice people with positive traits. You're actually preventing him from meeting someone who actually is romantically interested in him.
I certainly wouldn't like to make anyone's life more miserable or use anyone. What is the best way to go about it? Ask him to have a conversation in which I tell him I am not in love with him, and let him choose what he wants to do?
I hate being this way. If you can give me suggestions about how I can change, please do. I would just like to be normal and have a family and children one day, like normal people. How do I get there, while at the same time being true to myself?
I certainly wouldn't like to make anyone's life more miserable or use anyone. What is the best way to go about it? Ask him to have a conversation in which I tell him I am not in love with him, and let him choose what he wants to do?
If you are no longer invested in the long term for this relationship why even ask him what he wants to do? He is apparently invested. No way to sugar coat a breakup. Just sit him down and tell him.
I certainly wouldn't like to make anyone's life more miserable or use anyone. What is the best way to go about it? Ask him to have a conversation in which I tell him I am not in love with him, and let him choose what he wants to do?
I hate being this way. If you can give me suggestions about how I can change, please do. I would just like to be normal and have a family and children one day, like normal people. How do I get there, while at the same time being true to myself?
I hate being this way. If you can give me suggestions about how I can change, please do. I would just like to be normal and have a family and children one day, like normal people. How do I get there, while at the same time being true to myself?
Here is a simple one: college does not mean worldliness or open minded. That post you made comes across as one of the most narrow minded comments one can make. I'm not saying you are, that's just how it reads. I've no right to pass judgement but the phrasing definitely elicited some responses from the gallery.
Somebody else said it earlier: break up, change your online requirement specs to include college and whatever 'worldliness' means to you.
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