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Hi all - I am a male (not from the US but travel often to the US and have my business there) and I have, unfortunately, split up with my now ex 2 weeks ago. We have been together for 3 years and 2 of the last years we lived together. loved it. absolutely loved it.
she has been pretty stressed with her job for a while and got worse and worse. in all honesty we really were a true romantic couple (which is rare especially in Europe) and could were very touchy/feely.
to be frank, I never thought I would EVER meet someone like that because I am totally not attractive. for whatever reason she thought I was. We have been true to one another - sure, she was older but that was fine because of our mindsets and connection as well as maturity however in the end, she was messing around with me.
I really want to write every detail but I wont for 2 reasons:
1) I don't want to bore you
2) I want to protect myself from any "hate" posts
3) I am pretty cut up about it.
Of course this has a big impact on me in terms of my business(es) and mindset.
All I can say is that even though she has her quirks and is not "normal", we totally got on well but at times she would be so moody, controlling and bossy and then turned it around on me. I took her to places she only ever thought of going (i.e Dubai). The one thing I know she loved about me was how sensual I am, how passionate I am but also I speak from within my heart with my inner deep feelings (you could say I have a feminine side) and yes, she was always moved but for whatever reason, temptation overcame her....
we also wore commitment rings too and were wanting to get married eventually. There never has been pressure of any kind but whatever has caused her to betray me took over.
I don't hear anything from her and don't expect to. I do have her belongings in my storage unit but have not heard anything about it even though I reminded her.
I just wish she would remember the way we were and remember me, most of all. Truly, we have been looking for one another for a very long time. Sure, she has been divorced but she has stated, and not a spur of the moment thing, on numerous occasions that I am some angel that fell from the sky and "saved" her and that I am her "dark, handsome man". These words and so many others that were within her were really nice.
Women like her, honestly, very rarely exist these days. She is such a stubborn mule. wholesome, genuine, sincere (or so I thought). Oh i dunno.
so sorry for ranting and rambling. I just really have no where to go. I keep myself to myself, in fact we are both like that but now needless to say she is probably slandering me to her friends.
we have always been open and honest, communication is the key for a great relationship but the last month or so... no idea. i know that she has been flirting with the builders in her property as we were having some renovations done (and just finished an office layout for me to work from).... but it just didn't make sense why she did what she did.
she then said she needs space... ok but i don't understand why. however she also said that she doesn't want to lose me and wants me and yet... tells others (strangers) something different altogether.
ive been a fool. ive never felt so great until i met her. how she complimented me, how she was with me.... only one can ever imagine. she didn't drink either which is great as I don't drink at all.
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I'm so sorry ladies and gents. so sorry for this post. The reason I posted was for some moral support of some kind.
its so sick to feel or even think of her with someone else, just like that after everything we have done and been through together. she even said, with tears that I have been there for her always - and I have, whether that's emotional or financial or otherwise. met the parents too numerous times.
We both believe(d) that we don't mess around, don't play games or the type to sleep around. we just aren't. too much crap these days and life is too short. both absolutely want a relationship, a solid ground and its been great until the end. On her birthday and our anniversary (same day!) I had to go. She pretty much wanted me to go and just made no sense, then she turns to the strangers and makes it up like I am leaving her on her day (which i arranged a few special events for her!) and that I am doing it out of spite or something. Like I'm the bad guy. I have a solid reputation personally and professionally and cannot imagine why people try to tarnish the good.
Some might think I am only holding on to the good stuff but no in all honesty, it isn't. i say it like it is and how it is. otherwise where would the truth me in it?
I'm curious as to why some people make these kinds of posts? Do you just have a good memory as to who posts what? Are you trying to call the OP out on inconsistencies? What?
I'm curious as to why some people make these kinds of posts? Do you just have a good memory as to who posts what? Are you trying to call the OP out on inconsistencies? What?
Curious as to why some people do that... or curious specifically about why I did?
If it the former, it could be for the reasons you state... or not. I cannot assume to know the reasons of others.
If the latter, I linked it to show that the OP is not as despondent as this thread might indicate. That he is willing to put this behind him and move on towards another, more lasting relationship.
In the OP here he says they have been living together for two years. Also the OP has posted multiple threads in the Seattle forum about his requirements for moving, but never mentioned living with anyone.
It appears the OP is a strong adherent to the Muslim culture.
*sigh*. I guess no matter what I say or try to explain, no one will understand. there are reasoning's for things, as i am sure there is in your lives. Being judged upon or coming to some conclusion does not equal the correct answer.
nevermind. sometimes I wonder why i bother really. humans are either meant to be supportive in times of hardship... or not. Not to make some "case". My best is never good enough, nor am I allowed to be human either i guess.
*sigh*. I guess no matter what I say or try to explain, no one will understand. there are reasoning's for things, as i am sure there is in your lives. Being judged upon or coming to some conclusion does not equal the correct answer.
nevermind. sometimes I wonder why i bother really. humans are either meant to be supportive in times of hardship... or not. Not to make some "case". My best is never good enough, nor am I allowed to be human either i guess.
Or others can be useful in pointing out things you may have missed in your haze of love and wonderful times remembrance.
You indicate "we" were updating "her" property, and building an office for "you". Were you paying for the updates to her property with nothing to gain if things didn't work out?
You've taken her to Dubai and places she's never dreamed of, indicating you may have a lot more money than her...sometimes things are not as they appear, and people may portray what they know you want in order to get what they know they need. IMO.
I'd say keep moving, put her stuff in a separate storage facility, only pay for that for one more month, and let her know.
You surely are attractive in some ways, you're successful in important areas. Work on your self esteem and then try again with someone your equal
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