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Can you define or be more specific with commitment please?, I've always looked at it as just being there for one another and basically just putting the needed effort in?.
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Well... what I mean is, you can be in a marriage physically for a long period of time, but not be there emotionally. I was under the impression that you meant the length of time was an indicator of commitment.
Well... what I mean is, you can be in a marriage physically for a long period of time, but not be there emotionally. I was under the impression that you meant the length of time was an indicator of commitment.
No....it doesn't. I was with my ex for 20 years, married 18 of those 20. But, I ceased to be committed to her after about five yearsor so in. Because iI realized, at that point, it was all just an illusion, except for my son. So, I poured all my love and commitment into him. My family saw through my now ex, early on. That she wanted to trap me, and her getting pregnant, despite careful precautions, sent up a flag. To their credit, they said nothing till after the split. They let me find out the truth for myself.
Its clear of such things that put people off on a serious commitment. That the person their committing to will try and change who they are. Try and take away their identity and make them over again in an image that suits the identity of the other person. Truth fly, I understand that trepidation, having experienced the reason for it. I lost who I am for a while. Completely lost sight of the man I really am, and it sucked. Never again. The same thing had happened go the lady I'm with now, except her now ex tried to beat change into her with his fists.
Yet, she took a chance on me. It just couldn't have been easy for her to do, either. If she was willing to show such courage, for my sake, how could I not reciprocate? Her courage and selflessness was inspirational. There is no way I can even think of disappointing her, and its impossible to not love her, unconditionally, with all my heart and soul. She IS the definition of commitment for me. She took all my fear, anger and resentment away, and laid her heart and soul on the line to do it. Proudly, and also humbly, I am hers, forever.
Now when you say Commitment Issues, are you referring to marriage, or monogamous relationship? I'm not sure that I'll ever get married again after my one horrible marriage, but with the right woman I strongly believe in committing to a monogamous relationship. This doesn't necessarily mean move in together, but exclusivity.
I hear it all the time. My girlfriends continue to fuss about their boyfriends/husbands and their lack of commitment. Why do men have so many commitment issues? I mean how hard is it too follow through? How hard is it to be loyal and faithful and just want that one person? If the commitment is a struggle, does that mean, that person isn't the one?
Are you sure the men have commitment issues because if two people are not committed then something is mutual.
I hear it all the time. My girlfriends continue to fuss about their boyfriends/husbands and their lack of commitment. Why do men have so many commitment issues? I mean how hard is it too follow through? How hard is it to be loyal and faithful and just want that one person? If the commitment is a struggle, does that mean, that person isn't the one?
Oh come on... plenty of women have commitment issues too, let's keep it real here.
Oh come on... plenty of women have commitment issues too, let's keep it real here.
That's oh so true. Lots of jaded women out there that got saddled JP with abusers, control freaks , cheagers, etc, that are plenty spooked of committing. The door swings both ways.
I hear it all the time. My girlfriends continue to fuss about their boyfriends/husbands and their lack of commitment. Why do men have so many commitment issues? I mean how hard is it too follow through? How hard is it to be loyal and faithful and just want that one person? If the commitment is a struggle, does that mean, that person isn't the one?
That's SOME men. Some of us don 't have issues at all with love, commitment and fidelity. If any person, male or female, struggles with those attributes they should be given a wide berth.
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