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I think in the beginning of dating it's too much. Seems over the top and feels unnecessary to me. My current bf randomly bought me flowers before a date at around 6 months and I thought it was adorable. He's gotten me stuffed animals but they were ones I noticed when we were out shopping and he bought them for occasions (bday, valentines day) and I loved that too. The more personal the better but yeah lay off in the first few weeks, especially if you're not officially dating yet. Had a guy get me flowers on date 3 and he was super clingy
I had one boyfriend who could pull this off very well. BUT it only worked because he insisted on picking me up from my place for the first few dates, so I could just leave the gifts there before we left. Each one of those dates he brought me something different - flowers, then artisan chocolates (premium stuff that had been painted on top...they were not only delicious, but beautiful), then a mini Paddington Bear stuffed animal he got me on a business trip he took to London. I am not a stuffed animal person, but I still have that bear.
Now, flowers delivered to the office? I love that, and I don't think I know any women that don't love that. It makes a huge impression, and makes other women at the office jealous. I've had a few boyfriends who did this, often times with very thoughtful cards to go along with them.
Pro tip: If you're planning on sending or bringing a woman flowers, try to find out what her favorite flowers are in advance. Don't just assume she'll love roses; don't get me wrong, roses are pretty, but I'd melt if a guy went out of his way to send/bring me a big bouquet of peonies or dahlias.
I can't see judging a gift. The person was thinking of me. Why would I thumb my nose if it were a little bear instead? Or a balloon? Or a book? Or a little sack of my favorite coffee? Or just a single hand-picked flower? It's not about me demanding something, it's about the person giving me something which certainly he didn't have to do. Right? I'm going to stamp my foot that it wasn't all to my satisfaction?
I don't judge gifts. I love them because the person wanted to do something nice for me and this is what he thought of. I don't order my spontaneous gifts out of a catalog to my satisfaction. It truly is the thought that counts, not whether I like flowers but don't like bears or I like candy but I don't like flowers.
I can't see judging a gift. The person was thinking of me. Why would I thumb my nose if it were a little bear instead? Or a balloon? Or a book? Or a little sack of my favorite coffee? Or just a single hand-picked flower? It's not about me demanding something, it's about the person giving me something which certainly he didn't have to do. Right? I'm going to stamp my foot that it wasn't all to my satisfaction?
I don't judge gifts. I love them because the person wanted to do something nice for me and this is what he thought of. I don't order my spontaneous gifts out of a catalog to my satisfaction. It truly is the thought that counts, not whether I like flowers but don't like bears or I like candy but I don't like flowers.
Great post. I never understand the people who claim that gifts - whether it be flowers or dinner - are "too much too soon." I can't ever recall feeling anything but flattered and appreciated when a man did something nice for me on - or in preparation of! - a date, whether that was the first time meeting for coffee or our fifth date.
For me, I'd prefer a guy who treated me like a lady, who opened doors for me, pulled my chair out for me at the table, and stuff like that. It's those gestures that impress me a lot more than any material items like flowers or candy. If he gave me flowers or candy I wouldn't get upset or anything, I would thank him for it. But for me, I'd prefer actions rather than things to show he is interested in me.
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