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I was talking to a guy friend of mine about commitment and he said that being tied down in a relationship or being in a committed relationship of any kind feels claustrophobic to him. He is a male in his late 30's that has never been married/no kids.
I assume if he found the right one, it wouldn't feel like that? Is that a rosy way to think or is that reality? How many of you lost your commitment issues once you found the right one?
He claims to be really big on fidelity and commitment, but can't do it. He's not the player type. And just to be clear, it was just a conversation. I'm not trying to date this man. I'm just fascinated by human behavior in general.
If he found the "right one", he would be OK for commitment for a while. Eventually, he would stop feeling that way and would start to feel trapped again.
People who feel the way he does generally don't understand all the effort and work it takes to maintain an intimate relationship over the long-run.
If he found the "right one", he would be OK for commitment for a while. Eventually, he would stop feeling that way and would start to feel trapped again.
People who feel the way he does generally don't understand all the effort and work it takes to maintain an intimate relationship over the long-run.
Do you really believe that's the case for all? I think it's something you can grow into. But...I'm not a man...so
What would scare you about being in a fully committed relationship? I know you love the ladies!
I've always had the opinion that for me to give up my freedom and ability to meet whom I like it would HAVE to be for someone super special.
Nothing scares me as such about being fully committed as its the greatest feeling in the world being in a sharing relationship with someone, a lot of men will commit too early and tell her he loves her and " appears " to be fully commited but basically hes just seeing how it pans out. I'm very sincere to a lady's feelings and couldn't really do that as its unfair.
Even though I'm completely honest about not being exclusive in the start, naturally a few have thought I have commitment issues but in reality it's me not leading them on if you see what I mean?
But again there is always a blue moon with one that comes along that you chase and crave a relationship with and makes you want to commit
And if someone comes along like London and says they want to commit, maybe give it a chance.
I wouldn't and still think I was right not to but I now regret that I'll never know
And if someone comes along like London and says they want to commit, maybe give it a chance.
I wouldn't and still think I was right not to but I now regret that I'll never know
I was talking to a guy friend of mine about commitment and he said that being tied down in a relationship or being in a committed relationship of any kind feels claustrophobic to him. He is a male in his late 30's that has never been married/no kids.
I assume if he found the right one, it wouldn't feel like that? Is that a rosy way to think or is that reality? How many of you lost your commitment issues once you found the right one?
He claims to be really big on fidelity and commitment, but can't do it. He's not the player type. And just to be clear, it was just a conversation. I'm not trying to date this man. I'm just fascinated by human behavior in general.
I wouldn't assume that. I would go on what he told you. Some men, and women, are not cut out for relaitionships.
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Do you really believe that's the case for all? I think it's something you can grow into. But...I'm not a man...so
How did that belief work out with your existing husband?
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I was talking to a guy friend of mine about commitment and he said that being tied down in a relationship or being in a committed relationship of any kind feels claustrophobic to him. He is a male in his late 30's that has never been married/no kids.
I assume if he found the right one, it wouldn't feel like that? Is that a rosy way to think or is that reality? How many of you lost your commitment issues once you found the right one?
He claims to be really big on fidelity and commitment, but can't do it. He's not the player type. And just to be clear, it was just a conversation. I'm not trying to date this man. I'm just fascinated by human behavior in general.
Me, but my issue wasn't claustrophobia - it was the examples of marriage I grew up with. I lived with the guy for eight years before I told him I was ready for marriage.
As for your friend, he may not be old enough yet. Some cultures feel that a man is not fully matured until he's between 35 and 45 years of age. At 46, you could say he's a committed bachelor, and damned lucky to have not acquired any 'baby mamas' in all that time, lol.
How did that belief work out with your existing husband?
I've read this twice today, but I honestly do not know how to answer it.
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