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I am going through some stuff with my bf right now. TBH, I do a lot of nice things for him and feel like I am being taken for granted. I talked to a friend of mine about it and her mindset is that I should basically make him do what I want and use sex as a weapon. I do not at all feel comfortable doing this. First of all, I want someone to do something for me because that is genuinely what they want, not because I badgered him into it. Second, I am not a prostitute. I am kind of embarrassed that I am even posting this. Thoughts?
Talk to your bf about your needs and what he could do to make you feel not taken for granted. If he won't do anything to remedy the issue, dump him for someone who will treat you better.
Withholding sex is the one of the worst things you can do in a relationship.
If it gets to that point then it's probably best if the couple separates. You need to talk to him. When it comes to relationships....it's best not to look for outside advice unless you're talking to a professional that can hear both sides.
I am going through some stuff with my bf right now. TBH, I do a lot of nice things for him and feel like I am being taken for granted. I talked to a friend of mine about it and her mindset is that I should basically make him do what I want and use sex as a weapon. I do not at all feel comfortable doing this. First of all, I want someone to do something for me because that is genuinely what they want, not because I badgered him into it. Second, I am not a prostitute. I am kind of embarrassed that I am even posting this. Thoughts?
You seem like a reasonable person, go with your gut, it usually is right.
I really think you should move on. You'll never "force" another adult to treat you well and if he doesn't treat you well now, he is either consciously making that decision or he just doesn't care. Neither possibility would appear to offer much hope for the future, especially if you've already talked about this and he hasn't made any changes. Find someone who will treat you well. It doesn't typically get better from here.
Ask yourself if you feel comfortable holding someone hostage, or threatening them in exchange for love. Personally I would rather be with someone who really wants to be with me. If your boyfriend is not making you feel what you need, move on. Don't threaten someone you love.
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You'll never "force" another adult to treat you well and if he doesn't treat you well now, he is either consciously making that decision or he just doesn't care. Neither possibility would appear to offer much hope for the future, especially if you've already talked about this and he hasn't made any changes. Find someone who will treat you well. It doesn't typically get better from here.
