How do people date when everyonne is expendable?

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Not to pick on the OP, but that train of thought seems to be a bit sad. Yeah, life is a risk, but what activity that is worth having isn't a risk on some level. The preoccupation part of it is what has me sorta taken back. This fear of getting dumped or being "expendable" logic doesn't seem healthy to me.

It sounds like the OP wants every first date to be the gateway to a guaranteed long-term relationship, and we all know that's not how it works. It's not that people are expendable or callous about other people's feelings, but you don't click with everyone.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Not to pick on the OP, but that train of thought seems to be a bit sad. Yeah, life is a risk, but what activity that is worth having isn't a risk on some level. The preoccupation part of it is what has me sorta taken back. This fear of getting dumped or being "expendable" logic doesn't seem healthy to me.

No, it isn't. The OP has posted before along a similar vein. Clearly there are some issues there.

[1xolisiwe]

Originally Posted by bson1257

I genuinely do not understand the concept of dating, especially in the 21st century. I don't understand how people date when you can be replaced at any moment. Any person can join a dating site and date whomever they want whenever they want. If I was in a relationship I would be paranoid that my significant other would be searching for someone that was better than me. I don't know how people do it.

People have always dated around to try and find the most compatible partner. This is not just a 21st century thing. If your SO kept looking for other people, then clearly you are either in the wrong relationship or you haven't communicated your expectations clearly.