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Everyone in general should be more honest but in this situation this dude is definitely doing the stringing here, telling her he doesn't have time to see her yet he's out hanging out with his buddies, which is fine, but again, he's the one that probably isn't being as upfront as he should be.
Nobody gets strug who doesn't provide the stings.
This girl needs a pair of scissors, not someone else to blame.
Even if this person is a horrible manipulative and unthougtful prick, that doesn't mean you go about being the same to them.
Horrible people do not overwrite your ability to think and draw lines you will not personally cross.
The OP is purposefully being wishy washy with this guy who she knows isn't what she wants instead of owning her own insecurities and just being upfront and moving away from it.
Nobody gets strug who doesn't provide the stings.
This girl needs a pair of scissors, not someone else to blame.
Even if this person is a horrible manipulative and unthougtful prick, that doesn't mean you go about being the same to them.
Horrible people do not overwrite your ability to think and draw lines you will not personally cross.
The OP is purposefully being wishy washy with this guy who she knows isn't what she wants instead of owning her own insecurities and just being upfront.
Everyone in general should be more honest but in this situation this dude is definitely doing the stringing here, telling her he doesn't have time to see her yet he's out hanging out with his buddies, which is fine, but again, he's the one that probably isn't being as upfront as he should be.
He has time to see her. He chooses not to, he picks hanging with his friends and other activities.
But apparently she is ok with that because she jumped as soon as he offered her a spot.
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just reiterating the OP is not fault free and the direction in her thinking doesn't solve her issue.
She is aware of the pieces in play, how she feels and what is going on here but she is still involving this guy because she doesn't want to be left with nothing until she has "something else" to fill that space.
She is using him at this point as much as she feels he has used her.
The slow fade is nothing more than keeping things alive long enough to slip out and not address anything directly. Direct action cuts everyone off immediately and leaves the OP alone again.
Round and round and round it goes.
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