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I've been seeing this guy casually for a few months. Lately he's been doing and saying things that feel like intentional provocation, such as ignoring me when I'm talking to him or mentioning how he finds some girl attractive. We are not in a relationship by any means, but it feels like he is deliberately trying to get under my skin or one-up me in some way. I've also noticed that he watches for my reaction very closely when he does these things.
I have a lot of positive changes going on in my life right now, while he is generally miserable, so could it be that he is trying to passive-aggressively attack me because he feels jealous? His behavior is really creeping me out.
Address the issue. Men & women do all sorts of weird, passive-aggressive, back-assward things in casual relationships when there's really no solid foundation. It is what it is, but might as well figure out where you both stand.. Tensions arise to be eased. (in whatever way works best for you both)
Listen to your inner voice and do not try to quiet the messages that are telling you 'danger, danger Will Robinson!' Gut instincts should always be acknowledged and if he seems like he's being an adversary then accept that, cut him off and back away. Life is too short to try to figure out what people's hidden agendas are. Find people who are straightforward and benevolent by nature and stick with them.
I've been seeing this guy casually for a few months. Lately he's been doing and saying things that feel like intentional provocation, such as ignoring me when I'm talking to him or mentioning how he finds some girl attractive. We are not in a relationship by any means, but it feels like he is deliberately trying to get under my skin or one-up me in some way. I've also noticed that he watches for my reaction very closely when he does these things.
I have a lot of positive changes going on in my life right now, while he is generally miserable, so could it be that he is trying to passive-aggressively attack me because he feels jealous? His behavior is really creeping me out.
Perhaps he just feels insignificant or arbitrary in the light of your personal changes?
Not having defined boundaries regarding your relationship towards one another could also be adding another layer of confusion for him and affecting his behavior. Maybe he doesn't feel as if he owes you any kind of treatment because their is nothing solid to be fighting for.
It comes off as you have written it as someone trying to figure out their worth and value and weighting what's worth giving against what they are receiving in return.
I can only speculate given the little you have given...and even with more information speculation is all I have to offer, next time he does it ask him why he is acting the way he is towards you.
OR, he's testing you in some way to get your reaction.
The best thing to do is react honestly, by describing your feelings (in words).
Observe the results. Does his behavior change? That's the best thing to key off of.
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