A Weird Occurrence In New Relationships

[Londoncowboy30]

Originally Posted by SeasonedNewbie

I notice whenever I enter a new relationship, guys come out of the woodwork and flirt like crazy. Maybe it's the "new relationship" glow on my face that they sense. Or, they just want the challenge of eating somebody else's "fruit."

Has this happened to you before?

Yeah I notice when I'm with one either on a date or actually together I get more attention from women.

But yeah I'd guess it's because your happy and have a certain glow about yourself that makes you more attractive

[Runninglikethieves]

I used to have this same thing happen to me and it still happens now that I'm not taken.

I was with a very beautiful girl that was way out of my league from the time I was 20 until right before I turned 26. We were together over 5 years. She was thin (a little thick when we were first started dating but thin for most of the relationship) and gorgeous. While I was anywhere from 240-280 pounds at the time. And I had more girls flirt with me and look at me at that time than in the 2 or 3 years after we broke up.

And here's the thing. Within a year and a half of us breaking up, I had lost 120 pounds or so. Which I have still kept off to this day. I was thinking everything from "could girls possibly think I look worse thinner?" To "maybe her liking me was a fluke and the exception? Why has it been so hard to attract women ever since?". And then once I started dating frequently again, I was getting flirted with and looked at by women more often. Just coincidentally. I started thinking "Where was this the last 3 years? WHERE?"

Haha I'm not sure what it is, but it sure was frustrating at times.