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Unless it is required to have coffee while naked in a hotel room I don't see an issue with meeting a friend for coffee even if one is married to someone else.
Their spouses might have an issue with it. My rule of thumb while married was don't do it if you don't feel comfortable telling your spouse.
I have a female friend who recently connected with her high school sweetheart of 30 years ago on social media. I think it's not a good idea because she's married and so is he. They aren't married to each other. She said she misses the good moments they shared in high school. They're meeting up for coffee.
Is this bad or ok?
Are we talking coffee one time? Okay. As long as their spouses know.
Are we talking coffee that leads to a discreet lunch which leads them to some tawdry rutting in a charge-by-the-hour motel on the outskirts of town? Likely not a good idea.
Just remember. The word 'FaceBook' can be found in roughly 25% of all divorce filings today. I had an old flame look me up on Facebook four years ago. We had an online conversation that was just catching up. But by the fourth conversation, she was telling me how her marriage was a shambles and wondering why we ever broke up, and how I was so good to her. I immediately defriended her because I knew where that was going. And, yes, my wife had full knowledge of our conversations.
Well, it's not really your business to be concerned about anyway. That said, as long as their spouses know they are meeting up for coffee and they are okay with it, then it shouldn't be a problem. Now, if they're doing something that they wouldn't want to tell their spouses about, then it's not the way to go. Either way, it's not my issue or yours.
Unless it is required to have coffee while naked in a hotel room I don't see an issue with meeting a friend for coffee even if one is married to someone else.
Naked coffee isn't the norm? Huh....no wonder the break room clears out every time I start pouring coffee......
(puts clothes back on)
My two bits, it's probably not a big deal, but it's definitely tempting fate in my book. However, OP, even if it's a bad idea, what can you do about it? It isn't really your place to say in this case.
Like most stated, it's none of your business what they do.
But, if what you say matters to your friend, I don't think it's a good idea.
Sure, it's just coffee, but she specifically noted that she missed the good old days. This could lead to her thinking they're meant to be or that if she hits a rocky spot with her husband, she'll think of him. Sure, it's just coffee, but this is playing with fire, given the history and how she feels about their relationship with each other. Sure, it's just coffee, but how do affairs start?
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